01/12/2026
A new year is as good a moment as any to look at long-standing patterns—especially the quiet ones we barely notice because they feel so familiar. One of the most common patterns is our tendency to replay stories about ourselves and relationships.
These aren’t just memories. They’re narratives we build around strong feelings—about what someone did, what it says about them, what it means about us. We tell the story again and again, sometimes with small tweaks, but usually with the same conclusion.
This is what the mind does - it repeats, loops and runs the story over and over; not to discover something new but to help us make sense of a messy experience or feeling. In the moment, it feels productive. Stories give shape to feelings. But repetition is self-reinforcing. Even real moments of insight often get folded right back into the same familiar
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A new year is as good a moment as any to look at long-standing patterns—especially the quiet ones we barely notice because they feel so familiar. One of the most common patterns is our tendency to...