Coach Minda

08/27/2025

I often meet men and women who are bright, accomplished, and hardworking — yet behind the scenes, they feel weighed down by:

-- Overwhelm (too many demands, not enough time)
-- Self-doubt (second-guessing decisions or hesitating to act)
-- Procrastination + perfectionism (spending more energy avoiding than doing)
-- ADHD-like challenges (scattered focus, starting but not finishing)

If you relate to this feeling, know that you aren't alone. Your struggles aren't a sign of laziness or not being "together enough" but a misdirection of energy. When you discover the right strategies for your unique strengths, achieving your desires becomes a much more realistic possibility.

Here’s what I’ve learned coaching professionals:
🔹 Small, consistent steps matter more than perfect plans
🔹 Practical tools + compassionate accountability can break cycles
🔹 Coaching isn’t about “fixing” you — it’s about helping you reclaim clarity, momentum, and confidence

I believe high-value coaching should be accessible, not reserved for executives with big budgets. Smart people who care deeply about their lives and work deserve support, especially when self-criticism or endless to-do lists get in the way.

👉 If any of this resonates, know that you don’t have to keep pushing through alone. And if you’ve found ways of navigating overwhelm or perfectionism that work for you — I’d love to hear them in the comments

Enjoy these last warm summer days
— Coach Minda

08/15/2025

Summer update and new blog post

I hope your summer has been wonderful! Starting in September, I’ll be sharing my updated office days and hours—but don’t worry, if you already have a session booked, everything stays the same.

I also just published a new blog post on www.coachminda.com:
Coach Minda Blog: Scrolling, Snacking, Thinking: The Addictions We Ignore

https://www.coachminda.com/blog/scrolling-snacking-thinking-the-addictions-we-ignore

I’ve recently deleted my Instagram and Facebook accounts, but thanks to my website, I can still share posts automatically. If the blog resonates with you, I’d be thrilled if you shared it on your feed or in your stories.

And in the spirit of chasing a little dopamine hit… a like or comment would make my day!

Wishing you health, peace, and happiness,
Coach Minda

Being in nature and beauty - taking a break from our addictions

07/30/2025

This is a great opportunity

https://www.facebook.com/share/p/15xvAoPoeq/?mibextid=wwXIfr

06/06/2025

Drawing from her clinical and personal experience, Kimberley breaks down what obsessive-compulsive disorder OCD is, how it differs from general anxiety, and the ways it’s often mischaracterized.

Podcast Episode · Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson · 06/02/2025 · 1h 6m

05/01/2025

I like this idea and quote by James Clear​, the Author of Atomic Habits​:

"Someone will start with more money than you. Someone will get into a better school. Someone will inherit connections you need to build from scratch. Someone will get picked before you. In other words, you’ll have no problem finding people with a head start.

That’s not the point.

The point is: when you get your opportunity, you make the most of it."

04/20/2025

I just got back from a few week holiday in the Provence (France) countryside, and it was a real break from the non-stop news about everything going wrong in the world —well, except for the NYtimes notifications I still hadn’t turned off.
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I just got back from a few week holiday in the Provence (France) countryside, and it was a real break from the non-stop news about everything going wrong in the world —well, except for the NYtimes...

04/02/2025

In our fast-paced world, it’s easy to get caught up in our own routines, rushing from one task to the next without truly seeing the people around us.
This is an invitation to slow down and extend kindness in the simplest yet most meaningful way: by giving others the benefit of our attention and good intentions. A small moment of presence, a thoughtful word, or simply assuming the best in others can make a profound difference in someone’s day.

Generosity isn’t just about giving in a material sense; it’s about showing up for others, offering patience, and choosing to see people in their best light. When we do this, we create a ripple effect of understanding and connection—something the world could always use more of.

Notice the people around you. Offer a smile, a kind word, or even just the silent grace of assuming good intentions. It costs nothing, but its impact is immeasurable.

See the good in others—it's a simple but very powerful way to feel happier and more confident and become more loving.

03/26/2025

Tiny Experiments is a new book by Anne-Laure Le Cunff. It is about rethinking our approach to goals, creativity, and life itself. If you are not up for a book, watch this u-tube video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ubMghRYqk8o

"We try to stick to routines and we try to go through very long lists of tasks, often ignoring our mental health in the process. There is a lot more to think about on a daily basis, but our brains haven't evolved."

"We try to stick to routines and we try to go through very long lists of tasks, often ignoring our mental health in the process. There is a lot more to think...

03/25/2025

How can I tell if I'm ruminating, or just processing?

Dr Rick Hanson created a list of what is, and what is not problematic rumination. (“Hint: when your thoughts turn chronically negative and repetitive, without any progress, that's problematic rumination”.)

What IS Rumination:
- Dwelling on something repetitively, negatively, and unproductively

- An ongoing, deliberate engagement with the negative material, that you keep getting drawn back into, keeping you stuck

- Recurring and persistent worries, resentments, regrets, self-doubts

- Revisting thoughts, interactions, memories, feelings, sensations, or desires that make us feel bad

- Interfering with your ability to think about other things, be productive, or enjoy the good aspects of life

- Not generating anything new in terms of new ways of thinking, new behaviors, or new possibilities—just rehashing the same old information without any change

Examples of problematic rumination:
- Replaying conversations over and over. You keep going over what you said or a text exchange, criticizing yourself or imagining how they must have judged you. Even though nothing new is coming up, you keep cycling through the same thoughts. “I can’t believe I said that. They probably think I’m _________.”

- Getting stuck in “what if” loops. You constantly imagine worst-case scenarios or dwell on what could have happened, even though it's out of your control. “What if I fail again?" "What if this ruins everything?" "What if they leave me?”

- Mentally revisiting past mistakes or regrets. You keep going back to decisions you made—whether it was last week or ten years ago—beating yourself up or wishing you could go back and change things. “If only I had ________… everything would be better.”

- Constant self-judgment. Your inner critic takes the wheel, and you spiral into harsh self-talk that doesn’t help you grow—just makes you feel worse. “I’m so stupid. I always mess things up. I’m not good enough.”

- Looping through unresolved conflicts. You rehearse an argument in your head repeatedly, imagining what you should have said—or building your case for the next time. “They had no right to ________. I should’ve said ________.”

- Obsessing over how others perceive you. You analyze people’s reactions to you, trying to decode whether they like you, approve of you, or are secretly judging you. “She didn’t smile back—did I do something wrong? Was I too much?”

What is NOT Rumination:
- Daydreaming, fantasizing, or positive reminiscing

- Mulling things over, and stepping back and reflecting

- Revisiting compelling experiences, and “processing” them

- Having intrusive images, thoughts, feelings, etc. from painful, traumatic experiences
Being shadowed by moods of sorrow, regret, anxiety, or anger

- Thinking you have turned the corner on something . . . and then being surprised by another wave of grief, outrage, etc. (the key here is that it is not deliberate)

Not sure if you're just processing your experiences... or stuck in a negative loop of problematic rumination? Take this short quiz to help you find out.

03/07/2025

Read this blog and dive into why these three love to team up — and what you can do about it. Take a quick read: www.coachminda.com and check out my blog: Perfectionism, Procrastination & ADHD Connection

03/07/2025

I just wrote a short blog post on The Perfectionism, Procrastination & ADHD Connection, diving into why these three love to team up—and what you can do about it.Take a quick read and let me know what resonates with you!

As a coach, I see it all the time: perfectionism fueling procrastination, ADHD traits making time management trickier, and self-criticism keeping people stuck in avoidance mode. It’s not laziness (well, sometimes it is — let’s be real! 😉), but more often, it’s the complex combination of perfectionism, procrastination, and sometimes, ADHD symptoms that makes it harder to get things done.

Wishing you progress over perfection,

Your Coach, Coach Minda

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02/27/2025

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