Open Skies Coaching & Counselling Associates

11/20/2025

I wonder how many people feel the need to reset often after socializing? Does it increase as we age? Deep thoughts before bed! 😊

People ask why my posts hit so hard, and the truth is everything I write comes from lived experience.

I’ve always struggled with socialising and I’ve always needed a lot of time on my own to reset. I recharge best on my own, at home, in nature, or buried in my special interests. That’s where I feel most myself and where my nervous system actually settles.

Home is the place where I feel calm. It’s my safe space. I don’t have to think about other people’s opinions. I can wear what I want, act how I want, and disappear into the things I love without feeling “too much” or “over the top.” I can just be myself without masking anything.

And I think that’s why my posts land the way they do. I write directly from the way I move through life. I write about social exhaustion, needing space, hitting sensory overload, the relief of being home, the comfort of routine, and the way I recharge. I write things I’ve felt for years but never had the space to say.

Some people grew up feeling guilty for needing that kind of life.
Some people were called dramatic or antisocial for needing space.
Some people have never had the words for it.

If my posts give anyone a bit of language or validation for the way they function, then that’s why they hit.

This is just how my brain works.
And I’m finally okay with it.

11/19/2025

Consider saying No to half the invites and Christmas obligations.

11/19/2025

Some of the biggest changes in my life have come from cutting out things that drain me, not from adding more to my plate. When you make space for what actually matters, everything feels calmer and easier to manage.

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11/17/2025

11/16/2025

Friendly reminder

11/14/2025

Let’s not judge someone before we know what’s going on with them 🩷

11/14/2025

Most people think anxiety is just “worrying” or “feeling nervous.”
But the truth is far deeper, heavier, and often invisible.

Anxiety is not just a thought in your mind — it’s a storm in your whole being.
It shows up in ways even you sometimes struggle to understand:

• Trouble concentrating
• Restless nights
• Loss of appetite
• Feeling “on edge” for no reason
• Intrusive thoughts you never invited
• Irritability you can’t explain
• Waves of guilt or shame
• Avoiding things you once enjoyed
• Physical symptoms that make you feel like something is wrong with you

Anxiety is not weakness.
It is not “overthinking.”
It is your nervous system overwhelmed and asking for help.

So be gentle with yourself.
You’re not broken — you’re carrying too much alone.
And healing doesn’t happen through force… it begins with understanding, patience, and small daily steps.

Simple Tips to Reduce Anxiety (That Actually Help)

1. Breathe deeply (4-7-8 method)
Inhale 4 seconds → Hold 7 → Exhale 8.
It calms your nervous system instantly.

2. Limit mental overload
Choose one task.
Focus on it.
An anxious mind hates clutter.

3. Reduce caffeine and sugar
They can amplify anxiety symptoms more than we realize.

4. Move your body
A simple walk, stretching, or yoga releases tension and resets your brain chemistry.

5. Journal your thoughts
Write what you’re feeling.
Your mind gets lighter the moment the paper carries the weight.

6. Practice grounding
Name 5 things you can see, 4 you can touch, 3 you can hear…
It pulls you out of spiraling thoughts.

7. Talk to someone you trust
Sharing your feelings doesn’t make you weak — it makes you human.

8. Protect your peace
Distance from people, situations, and habits that drain you.

9. Sleep properly
Even one good night’s rest can shift your emotional stability.

10. Remind yourself gently:
“This feeling will pass. I am safe. I am trying. I am healing.”

Anxiety is real.
And so is your strength.
You are allowed to take your time, to rest, to breathe, and to choose healing — again and again.