Joyful Life Coaching & Counselling with Tahni Fornes

01/02/2025

12/04/2024

Hey Sisters, Mothers, Daughters! 🌟
It’s that time again. Time to gather in love and manifest our hearts desires.
What do you choose to create in 2025? 💫
Take your seat in the circle and consciously cultivate clear vision and aligned action. ✨❤️✨
This circle is for women of all ages who are ready to joyfully take responsibility for their well-being and their dance with life 🌟

learn more and register here
www.tahnifornes.com/workshops-groups

11/30/2024

"There are no positive or negative emotions, just emotions we feel when our needs are met and emotions we feel when our needs are not met."
~Marshall Rosenberg

This is one of the foundations of my work. Being with what is with kindness and curiosity. Discovering the needs that have been met or unmet. Meeting each feeling as a compass, pointing the way to our needs. Bringing in the grace of lovingly allowing ourselves to be feeling beings. Learning to wisely digest our emotions and skillfully orient to getting our needs met.

Discover CNVC's Feelings and Needs List to enhance emotional literacy using Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg. This tool helps identify emotions linked to met and unmet needs, fostering personal and relational growth. Ideal for developing empathy skills. Authored by CNVC

09/24/2024

What a great episode on the nervous system! ✨
Thank you, Courtney and Mike!

Episode · Together · Courtney and Mike dive in to the Nervous System and Trauma. They discuss: that we all have trauma and it shows up in our relationships, how relationship heals collective and generational trauma, the small and big traumas that shape our level of relationally and intimacy, how t...

09/19/2024

I laughed so much listening to this! 😂
It brought me a deeper sense of compassion for myself and curiosity about others.
💗💗💗

Episode · We Can Do Hard Things · Enneagram Godmother Suzanne Stabile guides us through: What the hell is the Enneagram and why does it matter? The gifts and struggles each Enneagram type faces; Why the worst part of you is also the BEST part of you; The core desire / fear that explains your behav...

05/25/2024

https://youtu.be/fBiSDVPF0dg?si=qmA2FJCXJO7QQDEL

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j3nXYVlPrcY

11/21/2023

Here is a poem to nourish and guide you..

For Calling the Spirit Back from Wandering the Earth in its Human Feet
by Joy Harjo

Put down that bag of potato chips, that
white bread, that bottle of pop.

Turn off that cellphone, computer, and
remote control.

Open the door, then close it behind you.

Take a breath offered by friendly winds.
They travel the earth gathering
essences of plants to clean.

Give it back with gratitude.

If you sing it will give your spirit lift to fly
to the stars’ ears and back.

Acknowledge this earth who has cared for
you since you were a dream planting
itself precisely within your parents’
desire.

Let your moccasin feet take you to the
encampment of the guardians who
have known you before time, who will
be there after time. They sit before the
fire that has been there without time.

Let the earth stabilize your postcolonial
insecure jitters.

Be respectful of the small insects, birds
and animal people who accompany
you.
Ask their forgiveness for the harm we
humans have brought down upon
them.

Don’t worry.
The heart knows the way though there
may be high-rises, interstates,
checkpoints, armed soldiers,
massacres, wars, and those who will
despise you because they despise
themselves.

The journey might take you a few hours, a
day, a year, a few years, a hundred, a
thousand or even more.

Watch your mind. Without training it
might run away and leave your heart
for the immense human feast set by
the thieves of time.

Do not hold regrets.

When you find your way to the circle, to
the fire kept burning by the keepers of
your soul, you will be welcomed.

You must clean yourself with cedar, sage,
or other healing plant.

Cut the ties you have to failure and shame.

Let go the pain you are holding in your
mind, your shoulders, your heart, all
the way to your feet. Let go the pain of
your ancestors to make way for those
who are heading in our direction.

Ask for forgiveness.

Call upon the help of those who love you.
These helpers take many forms:
animal, element, bird, angel, saint,
stone, or ancestor.

Call your spirit back. It may be caught in
corners and creases of shame,
judgment, and human abuse.

You must call in a way that your spirit will
want to return.

Speak to it as you would to a beloved child.

Welcome your spirit back from its
wandering. It may return in pieces, in
tatters. Gather them together. They
will be happy to be found after being
lost for so long.

Your spirit will need to sleep awhile after it
is bathed and given clean clothes.

Now you can have a party. Invite everyone
you know who loves and supports you.
Keep room for those who have no
place else to go.

Make a giveaway, and remember, keep the
speeches short.

Then, you must do this: help the next
person find their way through the
dark.

— Joy Harjo, from Conflict Resolution for Holy Beings

11/03/2023

Nurture your light in the deep cozy dark✨✨✨

WELCOME NOVEMBER…

There is something about November that says ‘keep going’.
We are not quite through the year, yet the finish-line looms.
We are plunged into darkness by Mother Nature.
We are faced with the ‘season of joy’,
and yet many of us wonder where we will find it.

And I think November is a great time to take a little peek behind you,
and see just how much you’ve done.
To take stock of your achievements, your endurance,
your survival.
To rest, reinforce, before the festivities envelope us all.
Before beautiful new beginnings.

And most importantly, November is a time to seek out light.
As the natural order darkens, we must find it ourselves.
We must do whatever we can to brighten our day,
our home, the world.

Seek out light wherever you can my friends,
and pay no heed to those who condemn your sparkle.

You are much-needed.

Keep showing up, in that special way only you can do.
And show up for yourself too
(which can sometimes mean not showing up at all).

This year has been hard.
Again.
But beautiful.
Again.

As is the way of life.

As is the way of life.

Donna Ashworth

Art by Bettina Baldassari - BettiPigna

09/06/2023

I’m excited to be teaching again this year at the Kootenay Yoga Festival! 💖
Come join the fun, the beauty, and the blessing of gathering in Community to practice, learn, enjoy, and celebrate! 🤩
I’m looking forward to seeing you there!

08/07/2023

At 40, Franz Kafka (1883-1924), who never married and had no children, was walking through a park one day in Berlin when he met a girl who was crying because she had lost her favourite doll. She and Kafka searched for the doll unsuccessfully.

Kafka told her to meet him there the next day and they would come back to look for her.

The next day, when they had not yet found the doll, Kafka gave the girl a letter "written" by the doll saying "please don't cry. I took a trip to see the world. I will write to you about my adventures."

Thus began a story which continued until the end of Kafka's life.

During their meetings, Kafka read the letters of the doll carefully written with adventures and conversations that the girl found adorable.

Finally, Kafka brought back the doll (he bought one) that had returned to Berlin.

"It doesn't look like my doll at all," said the girl.

Kafka handed her another letter in which the doll wrote: "my travels have changed me." The little girl hugged the new doll and brought the doll with her to her happy home.

A year later Kafka died.

Many years later, the now-adult girl found a letter inside the doll. In the tiny letter signed by Kafka it was written:

"Everything you love will probably be lost, but in the end, love will return in another way."

Embrace change. It's inevitable for growth. Together we can shift pain into wonder and love, but it is up to us to consciously and intentionally create that connection.