Beyouwithcandidar

03/08/2026

Some women didn’t become strong by choice.

Life chose for them.
They became strong because they had to keep going
when no one saw how heavy things were.

Today I’m thinking about the women who:

Carry the world while healing themselves.
Hold space for everyone else
while quietly rebuilding their own souls.

Strength can’t always look loud.
Thats why women have to carry healing in one hand
and courage in the other.

Today we celebrate the resilience,
the quiet bravery,
and the healing that women bring into the world.

Happy International Women’s Day
to the women who keep showing up anyway

💛

01/21/2026

If you need to talk, reach out to talk to someone.

💪 𝗔𝘀𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗵𝗲𝗹𝗽 𝗶𝘀 𝗮 𝘀𝗶𝗴𝗻 𝗼𝗳 𝘀𝘁𝗿𝗲𝗻𝗴𝘁𝗵, 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝘄𝗲𝗮𝗸𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘀

If you’re 18+ and struggling with depression, anxiety and anxiety-related conditions, you can access free, short-term cognitive-behavioural therapy (CBT) through the 𝗢𝗻𝘁𝗮𝗿𝗶𝗼 𝗦𝘁𝗿𝘂𝗰𝘁𝘂𝗿𝗲𝗱 𝗣𝘀𝘆𝗰𝗵𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗮𝗽𝘆 (𝗢𝗦𝗣) program. CBT gives you practical tools to manage difficult emotions and situations.

📋 𝗗𝗲𝘁𝗮𝗶𝗹𝘀: OSP provides free, flexible care, including in-person and virtual options. You can access self-led resources or therapy sessions to learn coping strategies that can make a difference in your mental health.

📍 𝗙𝗶𝗻𝗱 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗻𝗲𝗮𝗿𝗲𝘀𝘁 𝗢𝗦𝗣 𝗻𝗲𝘁𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗸 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗿𝗲𝗴𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗿 𝘁𝗼𝗱𝗮𝘆: ontariohealth.ca/clinical/mental-health-addictions/structured-psychotherapy

12/13/2025

Love — real love — costs something.
Every relationship we value asks something of us.
Children ask for presence.
Siblings ask for a bridge.
Friends ask for patience.
Colleagues ask for grace.
Partners ask for understanding.

Love is not free —
but its price is always worth paying.

Because the places where we sacrifice THROUGH love,
are the same places we grow.
The same places we expand.
The same places where we become MORE

If you woke up carrying someone in your heart today because they’re no longer here…
That, too, is love.

10/24/2025

Do you know how far you’ve come?

This is for anyone doubting the transformation they have gone through.

Just look back.

👉🏿 Feel like nothing’s changing? …look back
👉🏿 Wondering whether it gets better?… look back
👉🏿 Feel like you’re behind?…look back

When I look back 5 years, I see someone doing her best with half the tools, half the peace, half the knowledge I carry now. What I know is that every stumble, every sigh, every teardrop that fell along the way taught me something that stretched me toward who I am today.

So, keep moving, even if it’s one small step. That’s the gift of time—each day forward gives us new chances to shift our story.

10/21/2025

We rise by lifting each other — and what a beautiful rise it’s been.

I was honoured this past weekend to receive a community service award at the Abeingo Gala in recognition of my contributions to the Kenyan community in Canada and, beyond.

This award belongs to all of us — every heart that believes in showing up, giving back, and building community with love. 💛

And what a celebration it was! The incredible Silla Sky filled the room with music that touched the soul — a perfect reminder that music, joy and connection are the true heartbeat of a community. Her passion for music and the joy she brings to the room, there are simply no words to describe it! 🎶

Here is to love in action and to the beauty of rising together.

10/20/2025

It’s all fun and games until your always-on-time client is 10 minutes late and suddenly you’re scanning the skyline for clues 😂

We might preach presence and patience — but sometimes our human side sneaks in with a little “are they okay?” energy.

We laugh, but it’s real — that pull between our calm, clinical side and our deeply caring, slightly anxious human side. Because beneath the degrees and techniques, therapists are simply people who care HARD.

We notice.
We wonder with curiosity.
We hope our clients are okay — not because it’s our job, but because connection MATTERS to us.

So here is to the therapists who are balancing professional presence with genuine heart… and who occasionally turn into private investigators when a familiar face runs late. 💛

10/12/2025

You’re just someone whose heart hasn’t learned how to go numb.
Someone who still feels the ache of headlines, the quiet sadness of strangers,
the beauty of small kindnesses that most people rush past.

The truth? The world needs hearts like yours —
hearts that notice, that soften, that care even when it hurts.
Because feeling deeply isn’t a flaw —it’s proof you still care in a world that hardens hearts

So if the weight of it all has you weary,
breathe.
You were never meant to carry the world alone —only to remind it what compassion still sounds like. 💛

10/10/2025

Today marks World Mental Health Day.

Today is a reminder that our minds matter just as much as our bodies. Mental health is not a luxury, it is a right — one that every person deserves access to, no matter where they come from or what they’re facing.

I am calling all individuals, communities, colleagues, friends, neighbours to find ways to intensify our efforts to create a world where mental health is valued, protected, and accessible for all.

If you are in your mental health journey, please remember:

✨ You are not alone
✨ Seeking help is strength, not a weakness.
✨ Together, we can break the silence and the stigma surrounding mental health.

Even in the face of adversity, hope is possible. Healing is possible. A brighter, healthier world IS possible. 💫

Let’s keep pushing for a future where everyone feels safe to say, “My mental health matters.”

10/09/2025

Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) is real. If you’re feeling stuck in the mud, you’re not alone. Grab your light lamp, your cozy blanket, and your support squad—we’re getting through this together.

This season might feel heavy, but you don’t have to carry it alone. Healing is still happening—even on snowy days.

10/08/2025

Take what fits and leave what doesn’t….