01/08/2026
Signs therapy is working that no one warned you about đ
We hear this all the time:
âIâve done therapy before⌠I donât know if it actually worked.â
or
âWhy do I feel worse after some sessions?â
Hereâs the thing â a lot of people miss the real signs that therapy is working because they donât always look warm, fuzzy, or Instagrammable.
Sometimes they look⌠inconvenient. Swampy. A little yuck.
From where we sit, here are 5 green flags that therapy is actually working:
1ď¸âŁ You start noticing patterns instead of just reacting to situations.
Itâs less âthis person is driving me crazyâ and more âoh wow, this pattern is showing up again.â
Green Flag when you notice it without spiralling into blame or shame, for yourself or anyone else.
2ď¸âŁ Youâre tired after sessions.
Not dysregulated. Not vibrating.
But like you did, emotional weightlifting and your nervous system want a nap and rest.
Good therapy is like psychological surgery, but that canât happen without prep â exploration â grounding â integration. Itâs NOT ripping things open and sending you on your way, that is a Red Flag.
3ď¸âŁ You stop wanting to burn every bridge
Instead of cutting people off or exploding after months of resentment, you find yourself having clearer, calmer conversations, infused with love, and having them even when itâs uncomfortable.
The win isnât the outcome. The win is staying regulated and true to yourself while you speak.
4ď¸âŁ Your life starts to feel⌠like it doesnât fit anymore
This oneâs sneaky.
Old roles, relationships, and routines start feeling like clothes from childhood: tight, uncomfortable, familiar but not your vibe anymore.
That discomfort is often a sign youâre becoming more embodied and honest with yourself. This is where insight meets real-life change.
5ď¸âŁ You show up to therapy more YOU
Less apologizing for crying.
Less nodding along when something doesnât quite land.
More honesty. More humanity. More presence.
(My personal fav stage of therapy).
Therapy isnât always about big breakthroughs.
Sometimes itâs about building the kind of safety that allows real change to happen.
What signs have you noticed when therapy starts working?
Weâd love to hear. đ¤