Lamppost Counselling Services

01/14/2026

01/14/2026

DBT Skills.

01/14/2026

Secure love isn’t built on perfection. It’s built on the courage to come back. To soften. To say, “I missed you,” or “I see how that hurt,” or “Can we try again?” Those moments teach your nervous system something new: that conflict doesn’t mean disconnection, and mistakes don’t mean abandonment.

01/14/2026

So many people believe a “good” relationship is one where conflict doesn’t happen. But secure love is built when both partners trust that even when things get hard, repair is possible. That missteps can be named. That hurt can be acknowledged. That connection doesn’t disappear just because tension shows up.

01/12/2026

Free *WHEN ANGER TAKES OVER ICEBERG: POSTER & WORKSHEETS FOR CHILDREN*
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Anger in children is often the part adults notice most, but it is rarely the real problem.

Shouting, hitting, slamming doors, or saying hurtful things are usually signs that something underneath feels too hard. Many children act out when they feel overwhelmed, worried, unsafe, unheard, embarrassed, or exhausted from trying to cope. Anger is often a signal, not bad behaviour.

When children are labelled as aggressive or difficult, the feelings driving that behaviour are easily missed. This can leave children feeling more misunderstood and less able to regulate their emotions. What helps most is not punishment, but curiosity, safety, and support.

Children need help to understand what their anger is trying to tell them. They need adults who can stay calm, name feelings, set clear boundaries, and teach safe ways to manage big emotions. With the right support, children can learn to recognise early signs of anger, ask for help, and use calming strategies before things escalate.

Anger does not mean something is wrong with a child. It usually means something is too much right now.

01/12/2026

A half-hearted “sorry” or an apology that sounds more like an excuse can actually make things worse.

It’s like putting a Band-Aid on a deep cut; it might cover up the problem temporarily, but it doesn’t address the actual depth of the issue or promote true healing.

Make sure your apology does more than ease your discomfort.
Make sure it acknowledges the impact, takes responsibility, and creates space for real repair.

01/10/2026

01/10/2026

We’re living in a time where differences often turn into hostility. But disagreement is not the problem… how we handle it is.

When we listen with empathy, create safe spaces, and respect people even if we don’t share their views, disagreements can actually make us stronger.

💬 What would happen if more of us chose to listen instead of fight?

01/10/2026

“People come into your life for a reason, for a season, or for a lifetime. When you figure out which is it, you’ll know exactly what to do.” - Unknown

When relationships do not turn out as expected, it’s easy to blame others for their shortcomings. It’s easy to be hurt or irritated by their quirks and tendencies. Everyone carries their own baggage, and in the flush or our desire to grow closer, we may tend to see just what WE want to see. We may overlook the underlying traits and motivations, and even energetic misalignments, that are part of the dynamic. Accepting people for who they are, without being enmeshed in judgement, is liberation.

It is said that there are three types of friends:

1. If they are there for a reason, once that is handled, that may be all that needs to happen.
2. If they are there for a season, it may be an intense time of learning and growth, after which you both move on.
3.If they are there for a lifetime, then there will be ebbs and flows, periods of tension and expansion, but underneath it all, you know that the love for you is constant rather than conditional. These are your people.

Drop a ❤️ if you can have gratitude for all the types of relationships that come

01/10/2026

Expectations don’t create obligations.
Promises do.

If you’re carrying guilt, resentment, or pressure, pause and ask:
What did I actually agree to?

Boundaries begin where assumptions end.