04/09/2024
โBabies are born with only one power; to elicit the emotion of tenderness and a caring response from their parents, especially and specifically from their mothers. Why? Because their survival depends on it.
All human babies are born prematurely relative to other mammals; perhaps by as much as 9-18 months. Many hypothesize that Mother Nature designed us this way to accommodate two things: the ability to walk upright and the luxury of a large adult brain. To enable upright motion, the pelvis needed to shrink significantly, reducing the diameter of the birth canal. For babies to be born safely, they needed to be born at an earlier stage of development meaning a newbornโs brain is a mere 25% of their adult size. In the first 3 years their brains triple in size reaching almost 80% of their eventual adult size.
Scientists have found animals born into hostile environments tend to have larger brains at birth to help them survive. Zebras, for example, need to be able to keep up with the herd just hours after birth; their relatively mature infant brain helps them respond appropriately when a lion appears.
Nature always have a survival strategy in place. So, what is the survival strategy for human babies born with such tiny brains? The answer is simple - itโs us, their parents.
Babies are biologically designed to form secure attachments for good reason. John Bowlby, Founder of Attachment Theory, hypothesized healthy attachment is crucial to promote emotional regulation and optimal brain development.
The brain doesnโt fully mature until our mid-late 20s. So, what does this mean for us as parents? It means we need to be responsive, patient, compassionate and flexible with our kids. The way we choose to communicate with our children - positive or negative - affects the way their brains grow. This realization brings intense responsibility, which is simultaneously terrifying and exciting. If we can give our kids the experiences they need weโll quite literally be designing a brain that will help ensure their future happiness & success.โ
This is an excerpt from โs eBook, The Lost Art of Natural Parenting.
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