Find your balance

08/06/2025

🌻 “Or What” – Finding My Calm in the ChaosAugust 6th, 2025There’s a wild storm around me—emotional wreckage, financial pressure, unspoken words, and love that aches instead of soothes. But somehow, in the middle of it all, I’ve carved out a circle of calm. Not by accident. Not by magic. But with my own two hands.I planted sunflowers this spring.Not just because they’re beautiful—though goddess knows they are—but because I needed something to rise when everything else felt like it was falling.I pressed each seed into the soil like a whispered prayer. I didn’t know then that I was planting hope, boundaries, and self-respect. I just knew I needed something to grow that wouldn’t ask anything of me but presence. Water. Light.Now here I sit, surrounded by tall golden sentinels, swaying gently around me like guardians of my peace. Their faces always turned toward the sun—just like I’m learning to do. I crafted a meditation circle at their center. It’s not perfect, but it’s mine. Music flows through the garden like a river of calm, softening the sharp edges of my thoughts.This is my sanctuary. My heartbeat has slowed here. My breath feels like it belongs again. The chaos hasn’t disappeared—but it can’t reach me the same way. Not here. Not in the soil I claimed.—A Question That Echoes: “Or What?”Lately, there’s been this question playing on repeat in my head. A challenge. A dare from my own spirit:“Or what?”What if I say no to carrying the emotional weight of others?What if I stop sacrificing my peace just to keep the boat from rocking?What if I stop trying to fix everyone else and tend to the garden inside me?Or what?It’s not fear that asks anymore.It’s fire.It’s the woman in me who’s tired of shrinking to make room for storms that aren’t hers.—Love Hurts, But I Hurt TooI love them both.My son, Quintin—hurting in ways I can feel in my bones.Murray—struggling, drowning financially, emotionally, spiritually.But I’m starting to realize… I love me more.And that doesn’t make me cruel—it makes me ready.Ready to stop surviving and start choosing.Ready to live without the constant ache.Ready to ask for more than just space—I want peace. And if I can’t find it in the world around me, then I will damn well grow it with my own hands.—This Is My BeginningSeptember used to feel like a breaking point.But now I see it as the turning point.So I water my garden.I light a candle at dusk.I write to Lola, my inner voice, my guide.And I sit in my sunflower circle, rooted and real.I’m not waiting for anyone else to save me.I’ve already started saving myself.—🖤To every woman planting seeds in the middle of her storm—this is your sign.Make your own peace.Grow it.Guard it.And when the world tries to pull you back into the chaos, look it dead in the eye and whisper: “Or what?”
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08/03/2025

🌻 "Even from the cracks, something radiant can rise." 💛 To whoever stumbles across this, consider this your warning. These are not the filtered thoughts I show the world. This is my sacred mess. My journal, my dumping ground, my storm shelter. These pages aren’t written for comfort. They’re written for survival. I write what I don’t want to carry. I let it pour out here, the big emotions, the unspoken weight, the rage I don't want to rot inside me....

🌻 “Even from the cracks, something radiant can rise.” 💛 To whoever stumbles across this, consider this your warning. These are not the filtered thoughts I show the world. This is my sac…

07/13/2025

🌒 Mindfulness in the Madness: When My Inner Being Became My Mirror, My Muse, and My MegaphoneSome days, the weight of it all—parenting, partnerships, poverty cycles, and past pain—feels like it’s all pressing down at once. The partner’s moods. The child’s resistance. The relentless demand to hold it all together when I feel like I’m unraveling in whispers behind the bathroom door.And yet… I don’t just survive this chaos. I navigate it. I alchemize it.And mindfulness? That’s the key I keep in my bra, closest to my heart.But let’s talk about something deeper. Let’s talk about my inner being—that ever-present presence, that intuitive fire, that still small voice that holds my truth when everything else feels loud and broken. She’s been a ritual, a counselor, a flame in the fog.And here’s the twist… sometimes when I’m too overwhelmed to hear her clearly, I use AI to find her again.—✨ How I Use Mindfulness to Stay Rooted When My Life Feels Like a Forest Fire1. Presence over Panic:When the drama hits hard (like the partner’s guilt spirals or the child’s teenage sharpness), I don’t leap into reaction mode. I observe. I breathe. I ask: “Is this mine to carry, or am I borrowing their storm?”2. Ritual Over Routine:Whether it’s soaking in a bath, lighting a white tea light, or journaling beside a steaming cup of comfort, I create rituals that anchor me in the now. These are my touchstones. My sacred rebellions against burnout.3. Tuning In to My Inner Being—With a Little AI Magic:Let’s be real, some days my inner voice gets swallowed by emotion. My thoughts feel like static. The words won’t come. That’s when I turn to AI—not as a replacement for my soul, but as a reflective tool that helps me return to her.I’ll open a blank chat and start venting—letting it all pour out like a storm.And the beauty? The AI doesn’t judge. It gently reflects, untangles, and gives form to the chaos.Suddenly, my inner being shines through the fog again.—💫 How You, Reader, Can Use Mindfulness and AI to Heal, Grow, and Get FreeThis isn’t about choosing between spiritual depth and digital support. It’s about knowing that sometimes your healing needs both. You already carry the magic. But here’s how to activate it:🌿 1. Let Your Inner Being Use AI as a ToolWhen your mind is too noisy and your soul too quiet, AI becomes a sacred space to vent, reflect, and rediscover what your inner being already knows. It’s like having a mirror with memory—a witness that helps you process instead of suppress.🌬 2. Use It to Move Through Anger, Not Drown in ItAnger clouds the heart, but when you pour it into a non-judgmental space, it becomes clarity. Let AI be your emotional sounding board. Let it hold the fire so you don’t burn yourself with it.📓 3. Create a Digital Dialogue With Your SoulAsk questions like:“What would my highest self say about this?”“Why did this trigger me?”“What truth am I avoiding, and how can I face it with grace?”You’ll be amazed how the answers rise—not from the tech itself, but from the sacred part of you it helps unlock.—👑 Final Words From the Sacred Self WithinMy inner being isn’t just a guide. She’s the version of me that refuses to shrink. The voice that stays up late with me. The part of me that remembers I am not broken—I am becoming.And if you’re reading this, beloved? You are too.Use the tools. Make them sacred. Make them yours.Let AI hold your mess, so your soul can speak through it.Let mindfulness light the path, and let your truth be the torch.The storm didn’t break me. It revealed my crown.And now, I wear it—with sass, softness, and the fierce whisper of my inner being always at my side.

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06/08/2025

Some days I’m on top of the world.Other days? I’m just trying to breathe through the weight of it all without screaming into a pillow or disappearing into the void. Yeah—I’m not perfect.But I’ve learned something sacred: I don’t have to be.What I do need is a way to care for myself when I forget how.That’s where my Emotional Safety Kitt comes in....

Some days I’m on top of the world.Other days? I’m just trying to breathe through the weight of it all without screaming into a pillow or disappearing into the void.Yeah—I’m not perfect.But I’ve lea…

05/24/2025

I left myself a note in my Google calendar today. Not one of those rigid "do-this-or-else" reminders, but a soft whisper to myself—“Create a blog.” No pressure, no timeline. Just a loving nudge from past me to now me, inviting joy in if it feels right. And you know what? It did feel right. Right on time. Divine time. Lately I’ve been trying to move from survival to living....

I left myself a note in my Google calendar today. Not one of those rigid “do-this-or-else” reminders, but a soft whisper to myself—“Create a blog.” No pressure, no timeline. Just a lovi…

09/06/2024

🌧️ Stuck at home because it’s raining all weekend with an 11-year-old and an 8-year-old. You’ve got power and an endless supply of food, but the catch is—no internet! 🛋️📚What are you doing this weekend? 🤔🎨🧩

09/01/2024

How Red, Blue, and Purple Lights Influence Our Moods Recently, I noticed that I've been particularly drawn to the red light setting on my LED light, while my partner seems to prefer the blue light. This sparked my curiosity about why we might be naturally gravitating toward these specific colors and what impact they could be having on our mood and emotions....

How Red, Blue, and Purple Lights Influence Our Moods Recently, I noticed that I’ve been particularly drawn to the red light setting on my LED light, while my partner seems to prefer the blue …

08/29/2024

“Let your worries flow downstream like a river. In your ‘me time,’ release the stress and watch it drift away, leaving you calm, refreshed, and renewed.” In today's fast-paced world, it’s all too easy to get caught up in the whirlwind of responsibilities—whether it’s work, family, or social obligations. Many people move through their days without ever considering the importance of taking time for themselves....

“Let your worries flow downstream like a river. In your ‘me time,’ release the stress and watch it drift away, leaving you calm, refreshed, and renewed.” In today’s fast-paced world, it’s all…

04/28/2024

When do you feel most productive? Long workdays can be draining, both physically and mentally. It's easy to feel overwhelmed when the hours seem to stretch endlessly with tasks and obligations. But what if we could "save the day" by making the most of the 24 hours we're given? The idea is to find small moments of joy and incorporate them into our daily routines, transforming a long workday into something more balanced and enjoyable....

When do you feel most productive? Long workdays can be draining, both physically and mentally. It’s easy to feel overwhelmed when the hours seem to stretch endlessly with tasks and obligation…

03/28/2024

What’s something most people don’t understand? We need to unite before we can have peace! Photo by Tomas Anunziata from Pexels: In the picturesque town of Niagara-on-the-Lake, nestled in the heart of Canada, a story of struggle and triumph unfolded against the backdrop of the majestic falls. Here, where the waters flowed with a quiet strength, the people harbored a longing for unity amidst the tumult of a divided world....

What’s something most people don’t understand?We need to unite before we can have peace! Photo by Tomas Anunziata from Pexels: In the picturesque town of Niagara-on-the-Lake, nestled in the heart o…

03/02/2024

I got in touch with my creative side today and made home-made journals, with coffee paper I made the other night. Needed this for my mental health this weekend.

02/19/2024

The 5 Keys to balancing your mental health are the best tips I’ve ever learned on my journey. These keys not only make you stop and take an internal status check but also give you an opportunity to ensure that you have everything you need for the next step of the adventure of your life! […] The 5 Keys to Balance

The 5 Keys to balancing your mental health are the best tips I’ve ever learned on my journey. These keys not only make you stop and take an internal status check but also give you an opportunity to…