Jennifer Taun Counselling and Consulting

08/29/2025

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08/21/2025

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08/21/2025

08/21/2025

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I find recognizing my own attachment patterns to be very helpful, BUT the original way that attachment theory was presented has a LOT of problems.

Problems with the original attachment theory include shaming people for insecure styles, moralizing attachment styles (making some good and some bad), exaggerating the causes for insecure styles (abuse is not the only cause), and writing off the disorganized style as unchangeable without significant therapy intervention.

If we understand attachment styles as extensions of our nervous system state, we can see how they are defenses against loss of connection. As a social species, connection is essential for our safety, and our body has many wise ways of attempting to restore that once it is lost. Insecure attachment is the body's wise response to attachment rupture.

Secure attachment is a privilege because many people do not have access to any safe enough people in their lives that they could possibly be securely attached to.
Please do not blame, shame, or punish yourself for having insecure attachments! We get enough of that from our hyper-individualist culture that pretends attachment is a personal issue and not a collective one.
🧬 The full collection of nervous system infographics is available to view at linktr.ee/TraumaGeek
🧠 My 8-week virtual study group is a place we can discuss topics like this in collaborative community. Lesson topics: Polyvagal 101, Polyvagal 401, Energetics of the ANS, the BioPsychoSocial Nervous System, Neurodivergent Trauma, Attachment Trauma, Systemic Trauma, and Pathways to Healing.
Details here: https://traumageek.thinkific.com/courses/2025-summer-study-group

08/20/2025

08/13/2025

https://www.northbaycounselling.com/are-we-okay-how-to-know-its-time-to-renew-your-bond-and-how-to-do-it/

Every relationship—no matter how strong—faces moments of disconnection. Over time, life’s stressors, unmet needs, or unspoken hurts can erode the closeness we once felt with a partner. In those moments, we may find ourselves wondering: Are we still okay? Are we still close?

08/13/2025

08/08/2025

https://www.northbaycounselling.com/affairs-how-they-start-their-impact-and-the-road-to-healing/

Affairs are one of the most painful and confusing challenges a couple can face. Whether emotional, physical, or both, infidelity strikes at the heart of trust, safety, and commitment in a relationship. But while an affair can feel like the end, it can also — with effort and support — mark the be...