Camilla Joubert Lifestyle Coach

04/26/2023

I’m loving this audio book! Another excellent book by Susan Cain. She really takes a different approach to how we have viewed our world. Embracing the sanguine and sadness in self. Reminding us to have compassion and that being positive (forcing it) is a societal construct that isn’t always appropriate to understanding and processing our feelings.

02/02/2023

I wish I could give them a magic button!

My son asked me a question about how I felt when I was his age "were you ever overwhelmed about what being an adult was like?" I pondered for a minute or two wondering what I was supposed to say that would be impactful and wise (and reassuring)! And, then I told him the truth, that when I was younge...

01/23/2023

"Even the wind knows how to move in more than one direction. You have to be flexible in life. You cannot be rigid." - Ellen O

08/10/2022

Not setting boundaries keeps us from being whole and maintaining our sense of integrity

10/14/2021

Emotional care… something not often discussed in our world. Things would be better if we recognized the role of care givers in society. 5 min clip

A short film that questions the current state of the economy with thought-provoking sequences and takes a look into the past how the present understanding of...

09/04/2021

Spot on Brené Brown, unravelling is the reframe of mid life crisis.

Brené Brown writes a personal essay about Midlife — Midlife is not a crisis. Midlife is an unraveling.

06/29/2021

Glennon Doyle NAILS it. Superb book. Go & get a copy!!

To be alive is to be in a perpetual state of revolution

06/27/2021

What does having your own back mean?

AND What must you do to feel it?

For the longest time in my life I thought that just because I was confident and an extrovert this meant I had my own back. But I didn't. I certainly didn't love myself enough and I put my own needs and desires and dreams on the shelf and ensured that everyone else's were being met. In fact, I didn't even know what my dreams or desires were anymore. I'd lost a sense of self by having many codependent relationships. Making myself smaller for others to shine around me.

Codependency is sneaky... You don't realize you're codependent until it's too late. And, the undoing is extremely hard. No one wants you to change. It suits them to have you back their lives.

The first thing you have to do is recognize the patterns. The way you feel when your values are violated. For example, if you feel betrayed by someone and you're triggered and gutted by the incident (possible over reaction for a minor incident) then your core value is being violated. It's a sign to notice. What is attached to that action of real or perceived betrayal? Is it loss of safety or security and loyalty? It is disappointing, but if you're relying on someone else to make you feel safe then you might not have your own back.

You need to ask yourself if you love yourself enough to voice your needs.

What is your tolerance level? Would you treat someone else the same way you are being treated? And if not, you deserve better.

Start empowering yourself with loving yourself. Standing up for yourself even if no one else does.

The process takes a while. You have to own the belief that this is what you want and practice it. Like everything you'll slip back into old behaviour but this time your awareness of it, is heightened. Notice it. Don't get too agitated when you realize you've fallen into your familiar but harmful to self behaviour - you're learning.

Having your own back is powerful and helps you be whole and complete.

You are a grown up. Start believing it.

Plan a coaching session with a certified coach to start on a path you want to be on.

Camilla 💞

03/11/2021

VULNERABILITY

"showing up, even when you don't know the outcome"

~ Brene Brown

04/18/2020

“All uncertainty (eventually) resolves itself and becomes certainty” - Dr. Rachel Rothbart

Be kind to yourself. We are still in survival mode... you can’t be brilliantly creative or productive when you’re still grappling with emotions of uncertainty.

I’m the perfect case study for why self-isolation based on societal demand makes all the difference between thriving vs. surviving.