Transitions with Shelley

Transitions with Shelley A safe place to navigate life's transitions. Grief ~ Death Doula ~ Tarot ~ Sound Frequency ~ Reiki ~ Yoga
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For a long time, slowing down didn’t feel soothing to me.It felt unsettling.Stillness gave my thoughts too much space.Re...
01/02/2026

For a long time, slowing down didn’t feel soothing to me.
It felt unsettling.

Stillness gave my thoughts too much space.
Rest made me feel lazy.
Quiet made my body tense.

I didn’t realize then that my nervous system associated “slowing down” with being unsafe.

So instead of resting, I stayed busy.
Instead of listening, I pushed through.
Instead of pausing, I performed calm while my body stayed braced.

If rest feels uncomfortable for you, it doesn’t mean you’re bad at resting.
It means your body learned that being alert was safer once.

There is nothing wrong with you.
Your system just needs consistency, gentleness, and support to relearn safety.

This is what nervous system work actually looks like.
Not forcing rest.
Creating safety first.

January 1stand I’m not here to ask you to fix yourself.I don’t believe this moment was ever meant for pressure, resoluti...
01/01/2026

January 1st
and I’m not here to ask you to fix yourself.

I don’t believe this moment was ever meant for pressure, resolutions, or proving we can do more, be more, clean more, try harder.

Nature is still asleep.
Roots are quiet.
The work is happening underground.

If the turning of the calendar feels gentle for you, I’m glad.
If it feels heavy, especially because someone you love didn’t cross into 2026 with you, I see you.
If it feels like nothing at all, that’s allowed too.

You were enough in 2025.
You are enough now.
You will be enough in 2026.

No upgrades required.
No urgency.
No catching up.

May this year meet you with peace instead of pressure,
ease instead of expectation,
calm instead of constant doing.

Winter is not a beginning.
It’s a deep remembering.

I’m wishing you rest, softness, and the permission to move at the pace your nervous system knows is right.

So many women come to me convinced something is wrong with them.“I overthink everything.”“I can’t relax.”“I feel on edge...
12/31/2025

So many women come to me convinced something is wrong with them.

“I overthink everything.”
“I can’t relax.”
“I feel on edge even when life is ‘fine.’”

But when we slow down and actually listen to the body, a different story emerges.

Your nervous system learned how to keep you safe.
It learned to stay alert.
It learned to anticipate.
It learned to push through.

Those patterns didn’t appear out of nowhere.
They were intelligent responses to what life asked of you.

You are not failing.
You are responding.

And here’s the part no one tells you:
You don’t heal this by trying harder or thinking differently.
You heal it by creating safety in the body again.

That’s the work I do.
Not fixing you.
Supporting your system so it can finally soften.

If this landed, stay with me.
We’re just getting started.

12/16/2025

Your body whispers before it screams.

That moment when you’re holding everything together,
the list is endless,
you’re already stretched thin…

…and then your phone dings.

Your breath tightens.
Your shoulders rise.
Your whole body says “I can’t take one more thing.”

That’s not weakness.
That’s your nervous system asking for support.

And that’s the work I do —
help you respond to the whispers
before they turn into a scream.

12/10/2025

There’s a belief I hear from women all the time, and it sounds like this:
“Everyone else can handle this better than me.”

They believe they’re behind.
Too slow.
Too emotional.
Not doing enough.
Not keeping up.

But the truth is —
they were never meant to do this alone.

You’re not falling short.
You’re carrying too much without support.

And when real support is added —
when your nervous system finally feels safe,
when someone holds space instead of pushing —
everything changes.

You don’t suddenly become a different person…
you simply become yourself again.

And you are not alone.

Healing does not take years.It begins the moment you feel supported.In a recent session, I witnessed the smallest but mo...
12/09/2025

Healing does not take years.
It begins the moment you feel supported.

In a recent session, I witnessed the smallest but most powerful shift.

At the start, her shoulders were tight.
Her jaw was clenched.
Her breath was shallow.

Within minutes of being fully supported —
pillows under her body,
no pressure to talk,
no pressure to perform —
her breath softened.
Her shoulders dropped.
Her hands unclenched.

That shift happened fast.
Not because she “tried harder,”
but because her body finally felt safe.

This is what happens when someone has real support.
Their nervous system stops bracing.
Their body remembers how to rest.
Healing doesn’t take years —
it begins with feeling held.

In a recent session, a woman said something she had never spoken out loud before.The theme was simple:She was tired of p...
12/09/2025

In a recent session, a woman said something she had never spoken out loud before.
The theme was simple:
She was tired of pretending she was fine.

Women open up because I give them space to breathe,
to settle,
and to speak without bracing for judgment.

Safety creates healing.
Truth creates freedom.
You don’t need fixing —
you just need a place to be honest.

12/07/2025

So many women tell me the same thing:
“I just want to trust myself again.”

That desire hasn’t disappeared —
it’s just buried under overwhelm.

My work helps you return to the quiet place
where your intuition feels clear again.

At a retreat I was recently facilitating at, one quiet moment changed the whole room.One woman exhaled… and you could se...
12/06/2025

At a retreat I was recently facilitating at, one quiet moment changed the whole room.
One woman exhaled… and you could see the weight leave her body.
Her shoulders dropped.
Her breath settled.
And suddenly every other woman followed.

Safety does that.
It unlocks the softness we’ve been holding back for years.

This is what is possible —
the slow unwinding your body has been begging for.

Women feel guilty for the most human needs: quiet, space, slowness, stillness.But guilt usually shows up when the nervou...
12/05/2025

Women feel guilty for the most human needs: quiet, space, slowness, stillness.

But guilt usually shows up when the nervous system is overwhelmed —

not because you’re doing something wrong.



Rest isn’t something you earn.

It’s something you need.



If you’re craving a calmer, steadier way to move through your days, remember:

You don’t have to carry everything alone.

May you find pockets of rest today
~Shel 💜

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