Jamelyn Stephan Coaching

07/17/2022

Let’s just call it what it is ok.

When we think the worst of ourselves, others, or our situation, those are just “crappy” thoughts.

They just stink.

And if thoughts could smell, you’d get rid of the stinky ones ASAP.

So, take a moment to sniff out your “stinkin’ thinkin’”(as my colleague Dr. Paul Jenkins always says) and throw that crap out!

07/14/2022

“The opposite of perfectionism is striving for excellence, or healthy striving” (Brene Brown)

We thrive when we strive for better.

But not when we strive for perfect.

Better is always available to us.

A little at a time.

And keeps us hopeful and motivated.

Perfection, on the other hand, is never within our grasp.

And keeps us constantly disappointed and anxious.

It is better to aim for excellence than perfection.

06/25/2022

We tell ourselves we have no right to act sexy if we don’t have the ideal sexy body.

Nor the right to claim our sexuality.

Or to view ourselves as desirable.

Or wanted.

And this holds us back in our sexual relationship.

Because it holds us back in our relationship with ourselves.

We never fully see ourselves as a whole woman with personality and qualities that are desirable, beyond our tummy’s and butts.

Which means we never step into all that we are.

And we never show up as our most desirable selves.

Us.

Remember, your view of you is going with you into the bedroom.

If you’re open to the possibility that you could see yourself as desirable, maybe even sexy, but you’re not sure how to go about it, I’m here to help.

Click on the link in my bio to book a free 25 minute session where I can help you begin to see yourself as never before.

06/22/2022

93 year old Nadine Bellows feels this is the best advice she could ever give.

I want you to think about it.

And seriously consider taking it.

What if all the negative stories you have about you (or others) just aren’t true?

I know how hard it can be to question what you think.

You may be unsure of where to even begin.

But this is my speciality.

Come visit with me by booking a free 25 minute session.

On this virtual call I can help you see what you are believing (that feels so painfully true) and how to start changing it.

06/21/2022

06/09/2022

If you struggle knowing how to be more proactive in your relationships, these questions are a great place to start.

You don’t have to plan anything elaborate or expensive.

Just plan.

And then do it.

When you give a relationship thought, you are making it a priority.

When you follow through on those thoughts, you are making your relationship stronger.

Take the time to be proactive in your relationships.

This will reinforce to you, and to the other person, that the relationship matters.

(A huge thanks to Brooke Castillo podcast for giving me these awesome questions to consider from the podcast called Proactive Relationships.)

06/03/2022

You can’t fix something you believe is broken.

You can’t find something you believe is lost.

Because your brain wants to be right.

And it will always try to prove the story it’s practiced at believing.

Do you believe you’re broken and need to be fixed?

Do you believe you’ve lost a part of you that needs to be found?

These thoughts can feel so true.

But they are going to keep you feeling lost and broken.

So, just for today, I want you to ask yourself this question:

“What if I am whole, good, and enough just as I am right now?”

By genuinely asking your brain this question, you will start it looking for evidence that it’s true.

Because the only way to be whole is to believe you are already.

If this feels hard to wrap your head around, I get it.

But I know without a doubt that what we think, we are.

If you want help understanding this at a deeper level, click on the link in my bio and book a free 25 minute session with me.

On this call I can help you understand how what you believe is creating EVERYTHING in your life.

05/27/2022

Are you in the habit of struggling?

You don’t see that you choose it, but you do.

Because inside you is the belief that it’s supposed to be hard.

And the belief that you are not worthy of more than the struggle.

Perhaps struggle is meant to be a part of our human experience.

But I don’t believe it is meant to be the majority of it.

I actually think joy is meant to be the majority of our human experience.

After all, don’t we believe that “men are, that they might have joy”? (2 Nephi 2:25)

Too many of us think joy is going to come to us - someday, someway - when we are finally worthy of it.

We forget that we actually have to choose joy.

Every day.

So, today you have a choice.

You can stay in the habit of struggle.

Or you can choose joy.

Because you are definitely worthy of it.

God created you for it.

You are (you exist), that you might have joy (to have joy).

05/21/2022

When you feel defensive, pride is ruling.

But even if you want to choose peace, it can feel hard.

Especially when your defensiveness feels so justified.

Just remind yourself that if peace is a choice, so is pride.

Being defensive isn’t happening to you.

You are choosing it.

And as soon as you are willing, you can choose something different.

Like peace.

05/12/2022

Isn’t it amazing how resistant we are to celebrating ourselves.

Especially if we didn’t do something ‘worthy’ of celebrating?

And yet we can take the smallest error, the tiniest mistake or oversight, and beat ourselves up for it.

Sometimes for days.

Wouldn’t it be refreshing to start celebrating for days?

Or even for two minutes??

Go ahead, give it a try.

I think you’ll start to find that there is always something worth celebrating.

05/05/2022

A Giver.

That’s the kind of person you want to be.

But when you give to others with the expectation that someone else will come along and fill your now-empty “cup”, you are setting yourself up for disappointment.

And a big helping of resentment.

So, instead of looking to others to give you time, energy, and love, here is what I recommend.

Start putting yourself on your own “give to” list.

In fact, start putting yourself at the top of it.

I promise, when you take time to fill your own “cup”, you will have so much more to give.