04/17/2025
From the page If you miss me:
Date someone who makes you want to be better. Not for them—but for you.
The kind of person who brings peace, not chaos. Who makes you feel safe, not suspicious. Who inspires maturity, not pettiness.
Because when you’re finally with someone who understands real love—not just the romantic fairytale part, but the actual work that goes into staying connected—it hits different. You stop arguing to win, and start communicating to understand. You stop pulling away every time things get hard, and instead, you lean in. Together.
No more shutting down.
No more silent treatments or playing games to “teach them a lesson.”
No more keeping score or trying to “get even.”
No more walking away every time something feels uncomfortable.
Because you finally realize that love isn’t about proving a point—it’s about protecting the connection.
You can sit down, talk it out, look each other in the eye and say,
“Here’s how that made me feel.
Here’s what I need.
Here’s how we can move forward.”
And just like that, a conversation replaces the chaos.
Empathy replaces ego.
Love becomes a safe space instead of a battlefield.
That’s what dating a mature, emotionally intelligent person will teach you.
You won’t feel the need to be “cold” or “hard to love” anymore.
You won’t feel the pressure to play mind games to keep their attention.
You won’t feel like you’re constantly auditioning for their affection.
You’ll feel seen. Heard. Chosen. Every day. Not just when it’s convenient.
That kind of love holds you accountable. It reflects your triggers back at you in a way that makes you want to heal them, not hide them. It says, “Hey, I know you’ve been through some stuff, but I’m not here to hurt you. I’m here to grow with you.”
And you start showing up differently.
You start choosing peace over pride.
You start communicating instead of assuming.
You stop running the second things get real.
Because healthy love will mature you in ways that trauma never could.
It’ll teach you how to stay, how to listen, how to build.
It won’t make you feel small. It’ll expand you.
So yeah… date someone who makes you want to stop being toxic.
Date someone who makes you forget how to play games.
Date someone who makes you want to heal, not because they’re demanding it—but because the space they’ve created makes healing feel safe.
Date someone who reminds you that love isn’t supposed to be war.
It’s supposed to be home.