01/21/2026
π‘Before you worry, be curious.
As much as we might resist this idea, we are typically creates of habit. We do what we do because it works for us and, until it stops working for us, we're not likely to change.
Which means, if and when we see someone changing, we might want to be curious about what's going on behind the change.
New friends? I wonder why.
New behaviours and patterns? Interesting. Where did they learn those?
Changes in a peer group? Huh. That was unexpected.
Changes in grades? Didn't see that coming.
Changes in sleep? I wonder what's keeping them up?
Remember, we can be curious about the reason behind changes AND be worried about what we're seeing. Some behaviours are riskier than others (substance use, self-harm, skipping school, worsening grades, suicidal thoughts, defiance...) and might suggest something is going on that a young person is struggling to manage.
If you're noticing a change and are worried about where it's coming from, keep in mind that the young person may be uncomfortable talking about it with you. They might be confused about what's going on, embarrassed by some of their choices, worried they're going to get in trouble, and not want to talk with you.
Sometimes, talking about other people can open a door to future conversation. See what they think about a topic without making it about them - "I was listening to this podcast that talked about how most teenagers, by the time they're in grade 9, have seen p**n. I found that surprising. Do you?"
Be curious. Be empathetic. Seek to learn and understand.
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