01/27/2026
Who am I without this fear?
This is one of the core inquiry methods I use in my work with clients to develop self-trust, confidence and emotional intelligence.
If you could take a magic wand🪄and erase the fear,
Who would you be?
What would your life look like?
What would you invest in?
Who would you ask for help?
Who would you become?
Then we go deeper.
Where did this fear come from?
(Was it that moment in 3rd grade? That relative who crossed a boundary? Something a parent said? A movie you watched years ago? What you absorbed while scrolling? Something else?)
Fear is learned. It is conditioned.
AND because it is learned, it can be unlearned. 🧶
Next comes the practice.
For this moment, can I bravely go into the fear?
Can I spend a few minutes journaling and reflecting on these questions?
If the answer is no, that becomes the work:
What is preventing me from doing that right now?
Then we bring the body into the process.
Whatever emotion is arising
~go into it~
~feel into it~
Is it procrastination? frustration? anger? grief? shame?
Now track it somatically:
Where is it arising in the body?
Does it have a colour, a temperature, a shape?
Is it moving? How is it moving?
Does it have a distinct border or boundary?
Become a detective. 🕵🏻
Get as curious as you can.
Notice what happens, if anything, without judgment or expectation.
Just stay with it.
Then: rinse and repeat.
This is how we begin to dissolve the walls inside us.
This is how we develop emotionally.
This is how we build self-trust, compassion, love and inner safety.
This is the perfect place to start.
We don’t need more scared and fearful people running their lives from unconscious wounds.
That’s what got us into this mess. 😞 hello geopolitical climate crisis and everything else.
What we need is a deeper understanding of how fear got here in the first place plus compassion, curiosity and awareness around how it’s shaping our choices, relationships and way of expression.
From there, we can finally take the aligned next steps.
This is the foundation of embodied healing.