02/13/2026
I shared a reel in my stories from a midwife content creator sharing the various stages of labour that midwives view the process of birth falling into, and it got me thinking.
So many women are misled to believe that a midwife or nurse is able to support them and give them through the experience of labour and it's simply not the case.
What happens when women carry this belief, whether it's fed to them in their prenatal care or just not brought up in conversation in their social circles, is a lot of birth trauma.
So many women reach out to me in person, in social gatherings, and in this space and say
🗨️ If only I knew you when I was pregnant
🗨️ I feel like birth just happened to me
🗨️ I want a do-over baby
🗨️ I want a do-over birth
🗨️ I wish I had a doula
🗨️ I wish I had invited more people into my birth
We need to talk about birth realistically with each other, from sister to friend to care provider, why are we leading women to believe going it solo will end well?
Bring in your village!!! You can always tell them to go home if you've got this, but you can't reallyyyy call anyone at the last minute.
What are your thoughts? Did you go it alone? Did you have a positive experience?
Let me know in the comments below 👇