04/07/2025
Shame is sticky—but it can stick to the wrong thing.
When we experience traumatic shame, it doesn’t just cling to an event or a moment—it latches onto the essence of who we are. It tells us that we are the problem. That we are not enough. That we are unlovable, unworthy, and should hide ourselves away.
And so we do.
We isolate. We self-sabotage. We punish ourselves through disconnection—from our bodies, from nourishment, from movement, from compassion.
Shame feeds the cycle.
But there is a way through: Name it to tame it.
Shame thrives in silence. It wants us to stay small, hidden, invisible. But when we name it—when we speak it out loud in the presence of a safe, compassionate other—it begins to loosen its grip.
Being seen in our shame without being rejected is medicine.
The reflection that you are lovable just for being—that you don’t have to prove your worthiness—is what starts to break the cycle.
Healing happens in connection.
You are not broken. You are not too much. You are not unlovable.
You are human—and deserving of care.
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