09/10/2025
Can’t afford a doula? Here’s what I’d tell you anyway.
Not everyone can hire a doula, and that doesn’t mean you should walk into birth without support. There are a few things I’d want you to know if I couldn’t be by your side.
Understanding how birth actually works matters. When you know what’s normal, what to expect, and how your environment and team impact your body, you’re less likely to feel blindsided or doubt yourself.
I’d also tell you to practice relaxing now. Birth isn’t about powering through, it’s about softening and learning to surrender. Your breath, your affirmations, and the way your support team steps in can all help when things get tough.
And please, stay home as long as you can in early labour. Home is safe, calm, and familiar. That’s where your body can do its best work before you bring it into the bright lights of the hospital.
Another thing, know your pain management options. Even if you’re planning on an epidural, sometimes it’s not available or it doesn’t work. Having other tools like nitrous oxide, hydrotherapy, massage, or a TENS machine means you aren’t left scrambling.
Finally, don’t forget about postpartum. Birth is one day, but postpartum is the long haul. Food, boundaries, and rest aren’t luxuries, they’re how you heal and thrive.
Save this for later and share it with someone who’s preparing for birth. Because whether you have a doula or not, you deserve to feel supported. 💚
