Deborah Grose-Checkel CT MICM MDIV CPST CPSP PSE

09/12/2025

09/12/2025

Parentified or enmeshed children often disown their own needs.

09/12/2025

09/12/2025

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09/12/2025

Star Trek: Strange New Worlds,
Eposode: "New Life and New Civilizations"
= PREDICTIVE PROGRAMING!!!
Better fill your lamp with oil, the Bridegroom cometh.

09/12/2025

09/11/2025

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09/09/2025

2. Forced to find chosen families, they discover safer connections.

09/09/2025

You’ve heard me say it before, but I’ll say it again: Stop being surprised by unsurprising things. It’s a take on the above, or maybe, the above is a take on that. Whether it’s a family member, a friend, someone you’re dating, a sibling, a colleague, or simply an acquaintance, we have to stop expecting people to live into the image we desire and recognize who they repeatedly show you they are. This isn’t an opinion on their capacity for change and growth. That’s available if and when they want it. But it is an opinion of the chaos and suffering we live in pushing and pulling in this space. If you want someone in your life, then you’re going to need to find a way to reconcile with who they are. If you can’t reconcile this, then you might need space in the relationship or an actual ending. Can you learn to navigate what it is you struggle to accept? Are you interested in that or not? There doesn’t have to be a right or wrong answer to this, just one you’re willing to be accountable for. Find your path. The alternative is staying stuck in a dance of frustration, let down, hopeful suffering, and friction.

09/09/2025

This one's a sneaky one. I was having a conversation with someone recently where she was claiming that her parents were around all the time. "They were there. They didn't travel for work. They weren't out late at night. They were...present." But there's a difference between physical presence and emotional presence. One without the other isn't enough. And when one or both are missing, a part of you, at the minimum, is being neglected. Emotional absence means there's no connection with your emotional experience. There's no contact made with your internal world. There is no contact made with how you're feeling, what you're experiencing, what you’re thinking, and wishing for, and caring about, and celebrating, and needing support around. Take that in for a moment.

Sometimes, in the absence of healthy emotional presence from our caretakers, we might learn to disconnect from others (form of protectoin/safety - think: if I stay disconnected emotionally I won't get let down, hurt, or disappointed). But we also might learn to disconnect from ourselves.
Another form of protection/safety. Because maybe the pain of consistent emotional neglect is too much, so finding ways to distract yourself from what you feel is actually safer.

Part of restoring this is about learning how to make contact with yourself and others. It's about learning how to connect, and listen, and be present. It's about getting to know how you feel, and what your preferences are, and doing that with others too. It's about expanding your tolerance to be with yourself and others, and to show your nervous system that it's safe to do so.
Begin in places where there is little resistance and see what you start to learn and notice about yourself.

05/20/2025

True-North counselling & supervision education (CEC) will relaunch in Fall 2025 for Part-time Private Practice.
Claimable Client Insurances are now accepted for the client's submission:
Sun Life, Blue Cross, Medavie, Johnston Group, Chamber Plan, Equitable Life Canada, Manulife, Telus Health eClaims, and GreenShield.