Dr Jonni

Dr Jonni PsychoSpiritual Therapist

05/18/2026

For many years, clients knew me as Jonni O’Connor.

Then life changed, as life does. I married the love of my later life and became Jonni Gray.

And yet lately, I’ve felt something older and deeper returning to the surface.

I no longer see names as replacements, but as layers of lived experience. I think of them as chapters, and even archaeology.

O’Connor carries the young woman who first stepped into this work. Gray carries the woman I became afterward, shaped by love, loss, marriage, grief, humour, survival, wisdom, cats & ducks, and an entirely different kind of becoming.

Both are true.

More in this week’s Deep Brief. Link in bio.

05/16/2026

Today’s the first Super New Moon of the year.

It’s asking you what you’re building? What foundations are you laying? And are you willing to change course now, while it’s still early, rather than live with something that doesn’t quite fit?

The second best time is now.

Plant something. Start something. Tear something down and rebuild it better. One board and choice at a time.

05/15/2026

To be fair, I was 16. Cognitive reasoning was still under construction.

What I couldn’t have known then was that this sun-loving teenager with the dramatic pose and the impossible shorts would become my home base through almost every version of life imaginable.

We’ve gone from teenagers to elders together. Through love, loss, reinvention, grief, laughter, bills, dogs, ducks, renovations, existential crises, and approximately 14,000 conversations about what’s for dinner.

There’s something very strange and beautiful about loving someone long enough to remember who they were before the world fully touched them.

And even stranger still... realizing they remember that version of you too.

Happy birthday, Blake. Still not entirely sure what I saw in you. 😉

But I’m very glad I did. ❤️

05/13/2026

It’s not. It’s never too late to change course. It’s only more expensive, inconvenient, and humbling. 😏

But the cost of NOT changing is higher. The cost is living with something you knew wasn’t right, just because you didn’t want to admit you needed to start again.

It’s okay to tear it down and rebuild it better.

05/11/2026

We started ripping out the old deck in late January. It’s mid-May now, and we’re still building.

This week, we’re taking down part of the new build and redoing it differently.

There’s a proverb I keep coming back to: When’s the best time to plant a tree? Twenty years ago. When’s the second best time? Now.

The same is true for changing course.

The best time to notice something isn’t working is before you build it. The second best time is now.

More in this week’s Deep Brief. Link’s in bio.

05/10/2026

I’m a mother. That doesn’t stop being true just because my only child, Connor, is gone.

But the day doesn’t fit the way it used to.

It’s a celebration of something I am and something I’ve lost, simultaneously. And the Hallmark universe doesn’t have a card for that.

If Mother’s Day is complicated for you, because of loss, or estrangement, or a child you’re missing, or didn’t have, you’re allowed to feel more than one thing.

You’re allowed to skip the brunch and honour what’s true, instead of performing what’s expected.

To every mother holding something complicated this Sunday, I see you. 💛

More in this week’s Deep Brief; link in bio.

05/06/2026

When you could leave, when it would be easier to leave, and when the world would understand if you left, staying is one of the most powerful things a person can do.

Settling is giving up. Staying is choosing. Over and over. Even when it’s hard.

Especially when it’s hard.

Season 19 isn’t the same as Season 1. The butterflies are gone. The drama has (mostly) settled. But what’s left is something sturdier. Something that’s been tested.

That’s what love looks like after it’s been through the fire.

More in this week’s Deep Brief; link in bio.

05/04/2026

Blake and I just got renewed for Season 19. I even made a mug.

That’s how I think about our anniversary. It’s not “another year together.” That’s what you say when you’re counting. This is more like casting.

Long marriages aren’t one continuous story. They’re a series of renewals. Some seasons are dramatic. Some are quiet. Some you barely survive.

And some, you look up and realize, ‘we’re still here. Still choosing this’.

More in this week’s Deep Brief; link in bio.

05/03/2026

There’s a moment...where everything still looks the same on the outside, but it doesn’t feel the same anymore.

You start questioning things you never used to question. You feel less convinced by the “this is just how it is” explanations.

That’s awareness.

You’re outgrowing a version of reality that once fit you perfectly. And something more honest is starting to take its place.

It’s subtle. But it changes everything.

05/02/2026

You can feel it in the small moments that don’t quite make sense anymore.

The way things that used to feel solid… don’t land the same.

The way you go through the motions and wonder, is this it?

You’re noticing what most people are still trying to push past. The old way of making sense of life is loosening its grip.

And you’re already leaning into something deeper… even if you can’t fully name it yet.

05/01/2026

Full Moon in Scorpio today.

Scorpio doesn’t do surface. It goes under. It asks what you’ve been carrying, avoiding, and what’s asking to be felt.

This is the first of two Full Moons in May. It’s a Blue Moon month. That’s rare. And it adds a sense of fate to whatever surfaces now.

If you’re carrying something that’s old grief, new grief, or grief you thought you’d finished with, maybe this is permission to let it surface.

The veil is thin. Some things just need to be felt before they can settle.

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