12/20/2025
🌸 TW: This post is a vulnerable share on the topic of Endometriosis related Pregnancy Loss.
I wasn’t going to say anything
but as it turns out, despite the narratives around self sacrifice & mothering- there isn’t a trophy for “pretending to be okay when you weren’t” 🏆
Studies show that Womb Carriers with Endometriosis are almost ⚠️ 80% ⚠️ more likely to experience miscarriage- with risk of reoccurring losses.
In many ways, our grief is taught to whisper.
Pregnancy loss is carried like a secret song.
Felt deeply but rarely sung.
Our grief learns to speak only inward, passed quietly through generations that shroud cell memory in ritual silence. Yet with all songs of nature, there is a longing to be heard, named and held.
No one prepares you for losing a baby.
You’ve been waking up each morning to your pregnancy app, reading “Your Baby is as big as a blueberry” Or an Olive, or an onion- And the next day, instead of planning a Birth you’re just trying to tread water in an ocean of grief.
No one prepares you to be without the village.
When you don’t have a grandmother who will bury the placenta, or a red tent of women to guide you through the passage.
No one can prepare you
to enter the portal of your becoming
and to exit the labor of birth knowing
you won’t hold them on the other side.
If you have experienced Endometriosis related pregnancy loss, or reoccurrent miscarriage, I see you.
I am one of you. You are a mother. You are a warrior.
Because Stillbirth and Miscarriage are Birth Stories too.
Today is my spirit baby’s Due Date.
Dec.20th, with the Winters Solstice ❄️ 💫
Through birth and through my body
I sang you into the world
and released you 🥀
Voicing pregnancy loss related grief can be a sacred act- one that transforms isolated pain into collective healing. May we all have the courage to sing our songs even if we tremble while singing them 🌸
I wasn’t going to say anything.
And THAT is the whole point 📍
