Tandem Waves Counselling Collective

Tandem Waves Counselling Collective We offer individual, children, youth, and family counselling located in Niagara Region.

Tandem Waves Collective is a boutique, group focused centre that offers group therapy, corporate wellness training, and group clinical supervision. Our services is deeply rooted in being trauma informed, anti-racist, anti-oppressive, feminist framework while creating and implementing specialized group therapy, corporate training, and clinicial supervision. This foundation is important to us as we

recognize, understand, and envision a space that is rooted in a deep understanding of individuality within the collective group. With a combined 20 plus years of clinical experience, Marisa and Yiching offer unique perspectives in serving clients whose various identities intersect, change, and mold. As a racialized, women led company, Tandem Waves Collective is about coming together to learn how to be better versions of ourselves.

Dear parents,As we enter the weekend before March break, we hope that you remember that your children don't need you to ...
03/09/2024

Dear parents,

As we enter the weekend before March break, we hope that you remember that your children don't need you to be perfect. They need you to be real, imperfect with possibilities. Humble yourself if you made a mistake or took a misstep. Be kind to yourself.

We have all experienced this. When we are feeling bad or sad, we isolate, we distract, we numb. We avoid the feeling. ...
03/07/2024

We have all experienced this. When we are feeling bad or sad, we isolate, we distract, we numb. We avoid the feeling. And yet, we need to let ourselves feel bad or sad. That means we let ourselves cry, we let ourselves sit in silence, or we let ourselves be still.

And once we are able to feel those emotions we then need to ensure we make the decision for action. Feeling sad or bad prepares us for inaction which will continue to feed into our negative emotions. If we choose to engage in action such as going for a walk because we haven't gotten out in days, cleaning our home because we haven't been able to keep up with the chores, or just engaging in some sort of physical activity or chore, this helps our body and mind reset. Through this reset we will feel better. We may not have the solution to what have caused us to feel sad or bad; however, we have made a decision to help ourselves move through those difficult emotions.

We often find ourselves trying to avoid or distract ourselves from those difficult emotions. Let's face it - it's doesn'...
03/04/2024

We often find ourselves trying to avoid or distract ourselves from those difficult emotions. Let's face it - it's doesn't feel good when we are feeling bad. Perhaps it's more about giving ourselves the permission to feel - the bad and the good. Embracing the negative feelings is a part of us learning to manage our wellbeing AND just don't stay in it for too long.

With time, you will be able to reflect on that difficult season that you had to experience. It wasn't fair, it wasn't ea...
03/01/2024

With time, you will be able to reflect on that difficult season that you had to experience. It wasn't fair, it wasn't easy, it was what it was. And yet, you kept moving, trusting that time will reveal why you had to experience that difficult season.

Think about where you were 5 years ago, 2 years ago, even 6 months ago. What challenges did you have to face then that you are now able to recognize that it changed you in a way that help strengthened you? Life is tough. We don't have control of the outcomes of what is to come and yet we do have control of how we push through those outcomes - with self compassion and grace.

Just keep moving.
02/27/2024

Just keep moving.

For all our Asian family and friends, wishing you a Happy Lunar New! In the year of the dragon, may you embrace your fie...
02/10/2024

For all our Asian family and friends, wishing you a Happy Lunar New! In the year of the dragon, may you embrace your fierceness, lean into your wisdom, and execute your goals with confidence.

Wishing you health and wellbeing. Be blessed.

We sometimes need to do the hard work in order to practice self care. We know how it goes because we also have the same ...
01/27/2024

We sometimes need to do the hard work in order to practice self care. We know how it goes because we also have the same challenges!

"I'm tried today - I'm resting instead of going out for a walk. It's too cold"
"I'm drinking wine AGAIN tonight. I'm treating myself. It's been a hard day."
"I'm too tried to cook tonight - I'll just do take out."

Of course sometimes we just need to rest, drink that glass of wine, and do takeout. There's nothing wrong with that. However, when we become dependent on these habits and not make any small, active changes, it becomes less "self care" and more "self enabling".

Let's take a look at ourselves and see what we can do for ourselves for all wellbeing. Your body, brain, and soul is worth investing and nurting.

Winter Blues.It's normal for us to stay indoors in cold weather. Our bodies naturally want to stay warm. And we also k...
01/22/2024

Winter Blues.

It's normal for us to stay indoors in cold weather. Our bodies naturally want to stay warm. And we also know that our wellbeing is not just about staying warm - but feeling warmth in our body, mind, and soul.

When we isolate ourselves from others and the outside world, we feed into more isolation. When we stay indoors, inactive, and behind our phones, the isolation we feel will continue to grow.

To help us feel better, we need to increase our engagement to others to help decrease our isolation. Reach out to that one friend or family member that you haven't seen in sometime. Call them instead of texting. See them in person instead of video calling.

So let's get out and connect with others - your body and brain will thank you.

We often hear so many of our clients being so hard on themselves. The lack of self compassion continues to fuel our dis...
01/20/2024

We often hear so many of our clients being so hard on themselves. The lack of self compassion continues to fuel our disappointment with ourselves. It's hard to be successful when we play the comparison game.

How are they making so much money? How are they so fit? How do they fund their lavish lifestyle? Why are their kids so well behaved and mine are just having melt downs?

Perhaps we need to start reviewing our measure of what "success" is. Success means "accomplishment of an aim or purpose". Maybe we need to redefine what our aim or purpose is - it's not to compare with others; rather, compare ourselves with ourselves.

"Finances are tight and I'm so grateful that I'm making more money now than I was 2 years ago. It means I can continue to increase my salary."
"I couldn't even walk up a flight of stairs in my condo, I can finally walk up without much effort!"
"I do like those nice toys and I rather pay for an experience; rather than a car that I can't afford".
"My kids do have melt downs at home and it's because they feel safe enough to do so. And kids are suppose to have melt downs!"

So let's not beat up ourselves because we didn't try harder. We tried. That's success. So let's build on that....

Winter blues. The weather and darkness does not help our wellbeing. What helps us? Just moving. Inaction feeds into mor...
01/15/2024

Winter blues.

The weather and darkness does not help our wellbeing. What helps us? Just moving.

Inaction feeds into more inaction. If we move just a little bit more today, than we did yesterday, it helps us feel better. We don't have to set expectations of going to the gym (although that's great!). We can run, do jumping jacks, or play "floor is lava" with our kids. We can park our car all the way at the back of the parking lot. We can take that lunch break - that we don't pay into mind you - and go for walks with our coworkers.

Whatever the movement is for you, just move. Moving helps us feel well. Inaction continues to keep us feeling unwell.

The answer? Yes, of course we can only if we allow ourselves to learn from our past, continue to strengthen our skills ...
01/13/2024

The answer? Yes, of course we can only if we allow ourselves to learn from our past, continue to strengthen our skills in the present, we will grow into the future a version of ourselves that we didn't think was possible.

You can do it.

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