04/02/2024
~ 𝗻𝗼𝘁𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳
Sometimes people give you advice, but the truth is they don't know you, what's really best for you or how it feels to be you.
They don't know your path, the challenges you faced, or the situation you're in.
The problem is when you let yourself fall into their truth, the path they have for you and the life they want you to live.
You let them decide what's best for you.
When you think about it, it makes no sense.
Why would someone want to be giving people advice to make people's lives better, instead of just focusing on their own; isn't that already enough?
There are many contradicting intentions when people go around giving advice, especially when unsolicited.
We have come to believe that it's a good thing, that it's about helping people.
We feel good when we help people. But do we really do it for them, or we do it for us? Because it makes US feel good? Because we love that feeling.
It's not always simple and straightforward, to be clear with oneself if it's one or the other. To get in touch with our deepest intentions.
You'll probably say it's a bit of both, but I think there is only one source intention at the base of everything we do.
And that right there, that's the source of your whole persona, your behaviour and how you show up in your relationships with others.
Don't let yourself be lured into focusing on others more than you focus on yourself.
It's easy to look at others, judge their decisions, tell them what's best for them; but sometimes it's just a way to shift the focus away from ourselves.
We feel better when we have something to teach others, it feels like we're doing the right thing
It definitely feels better than having to deal with what's not working right inside of us.
We are such unique individuals and only you and I know what's really going on inside of us, how we function as human beings and what's best for us.
Sometimes what's best for you will be very different from what's best for most.
Sometimes what's best for you is not More, but actually Less.
Sometimes your work is actually just letting go of stuff that you don't need
It's being Less judgemental towards yourself
Realizing how you talk to yourself in the tiny little thoughts that you have in each moment
How you are being most of the time, what you're inflicting on yourself subconsciously
It's about undoing what you're already doing, before allowing youself to do something new
Taking the ride back to Allowing, Accepting, being easier and gentler on yourself
Years of learning these patterns will take time to get unlearned
So maybe for you, Slowing Down is the way, not going faster
Letting your path be different than most paths
allowing yourself to discover the most beautiful expression of your unique self
Walking in the unknown to the best of your ability, with compassion
and let yourself unfold and bloom
Mehdicina