05/23/2025
The Importance of Our ‘Care Teams’
A couple of times a year, I get my three cats groomed. Each has different needs—nail trims, ear cleaning, a bath and brush, or even a full shave. Many people wonder why I bother grooming cats at all, but for their breeds and coats, it’s an essential part of care.
Chloe, my ragdoll, adores grooming. The attention, the brushing—she even tolerates a bath with ease. Melman, though, is a different story.
He doesn’t enjoy getting groomed, but he appreciates how it helps him stay cool in the hot summers.
When it’s his turn, I always worry.
“Will his needs and boundaries be respected?”
“Will he be okay—or get hurt in the process?”
“Will the groomer be safe?”
I do my best to prepare him, but once he’s in the room, I have to trust. He’s a clear communicator, and he’s used to his boundaries being honored. And still—grooming has to happen. It’s a non-negotiable for him.
We’re so lucky to have an incredible in-home groomer I trust deeply. But even then, I worry.
A few weeks ago, as she groomed Melman, I overheard their exchange from my desk—and it brought the biggest smile to my face:
“You let me know if anything hurts, I trust you.”
“You get comfortable however you want, whatever you need to get comfortable you just do it.”
“We’ve got to do the really tough part, you’ve got this.”
“Good job, Melman!”
After a hiss and swat: “Okay.”
He hissed, snarled, and clearly communicated discomfort—and she met every cue with a calm respect.
She never made him wrong for having an opinion. She adapted, respected his boundaries, and groomed him with the utmost kindness.
This is what a compassionate, respectful care team sounds like.
We shouldn’t accept forcing our animals through things just because someone else is helping or it's a non-negotiable. Their needs and boundaries still matter.
I can’t fully express how grateful I am to have her on our team. The relationships she builds with each of my animals reflect why it’s so important to choose care team members with intention.
In witnessed support. 🫶