Rhodes to Wellness Coaching

05/10/2026

Happy Mother’s Day to all the moms, moms-to-be, grandmas, stepmoms, foster moms, bonus moms, and the women who lovingly step into mothering roles every single day. 💕

To the ones who nurture, encourage, protect, support, listen, cheer us on, and love so deeply — today we celebrate you.

Wishing you a day filled with love, appreciation, laughter, and maybe even a little time to rest. 🌷

And for anyone for whom today feels tender due to loss or grief, I see you too and hold space for you. 💛

Happy Mother’s Day! 💖

05/09/2026

Healing comes from connection. It comes from being deeply seen and felt by another person while we’re in pain.

When our distress is met with care rather than judgment, our nervous systems start to settle.

Healing emerges through being with someone who isn’t afraid of our suffering, who stays present without trying to fix or dismiss it.

This kind of attunement, repeated over time, helps build the internal safety we may have never had. It’s not about analyzing our thoughts but about experiencing co-regulation, resonance, and trust.

That helps our systems begin to integrate what’s been too overwhelming to face alone. Healing is relational.

05/09/2026

05/09/2026

This Is More Than Horses 🐎

Not all equine programs teach you how to truly hold space for humans.

You can love horses deeply and still feel unsure how to support clients in a way that feels safe, trauma-informed, and meaningful.

That’s exactly why the Equimotional Coaches Course was created.

This isn’t just about horses.

It’s about learning how to:

Create emotionally safe sessions
Understand trauma-informed care
Support grief, nervous systems, and emotional processing
Use therapeutic language intentionally
Build confidence in equine-facilitated sessions
Learn how to work with people in a deeply human, compassionate way

Over 10 weeks, we walk through the foundations of meaningful, ethical, trauma-aware equine work.

If you’ve been craving a deeper understanding of how to guide people—not fix them—this course may be for you.

✨ Delivered live via Zoom
✨ 10 weeks of learning (1-2 hours each)
✨ Supportive, connected environment
✨ Internationally Accredited
✨ Payment plan available

The start date will be in September 2026. Message me for details, to reserve your spot or check out https://rhodestowellness.com/equimotional-coaches-course/. 🐴

With warmth,

Janet

05/06/2026

“But I still wanted their love…”

Even after the hurt.
Even after the confusion.
Even after I could see the patterns more clearly.
And this was one of the hardest things for me to understand.

Because when it came to family…a part of me still longed for connection.

Even after emotional pain.
Even after boundaries were crossed.
Even after I knew some relationships no longer felt safe for me.
I still wanted things to feel different.
I still hoped.
Not because I didn’t see reality.
But because my nervous system remembered something deeper.

It remembered moments of love.
Moments of closeness.
Moments where I felt connected, cared for, safe.

And when those moments exist — even alongside pain — the body holds onto them.
Not the whole story.
Just the feeling.

I see this so often in people healing from family wounds.

They’re not only grieving what happened.
They’re grieving the love they still hoped for.
The version of the relationship they wished could exist.
The connection they kept trying to get back to.

And I experienced this in my marriage too.
I remember wanting to get back to the man I first fell for.

The version of him who made me feel chosen.
Seen.
Safe.

At the time, I didn’t understand why I kept trying.

Why I held on.
Why leaving felt so impossible.

Now I understand that my nervous system wasn’t chasing the pain. It was trying to get back to the feeling it remembered from the beginning.

Even though I can now see there were dynamics of manipulation and grooming woven into that early stage…my body still registered it as: “This is love. This is safety.”

And when love and pain become intertwined…
the nervous system doesn’t always separate them.

It learns:
👉 Love can come with hurt
👉 Connection can feel unpredictable
👉 Staying close feels safer than letting go

So even when you know something isn’t healthy…a part of you may still crave the love you once felt there.

Not because you’re weak.
But because your system is still trying to return to what once felt safe.

✨ You’re not “too attached.”
✨ You’re not foolish for missing them.

You’re untangling a bond that runs deeper than logic.

And when we heal that at the root…you stop chasing what hurt you.

Because safety no longer feels tied to the past.

If this resonates, this is a big part of the work I support clients through — gently helping them understand and heal the deeper patterns that keep them emotionally tied to harmful relationships.

You’re always welcome to reach out. 🩷

Janet

05/05/2026

Today we honour the lives of Missing and Murdered Indigenous Women, Girls, and Two-Spirit people.

The empty red dresses you may see are not just symbols — they represent lives, stories, families, and futures that should still be here.

As we hold this day, we do so with care.
With awareness that for many, this is not history — it is ongoing, lived experience.

Trauma-informed awareness asks us to move gently.

To listen more than we speak.
To believe, to witness, and to respect the voices of Indigenous communities.

Truth and reconciliation is not a single moment.
It is a continued commitment to learning, unlearning, and showing up differently.

Today, I honour.
I remember.
I stand in solidarity.
🪶

05/04/2026

There’s something deeply healing about being truly seen.

Not fixed.
Not rushed.
Not told to “just move on.”
Just seen.

So many of us have learned to carry things quietly. To smile while struggling. To stay strong while feeling unheard.

But healing often begins in the moment someone finally says:
“I get it.”
“You make sense.”
“You don’t have to carry this alone.”

May you feel seen in the parts of yourself you’ve hidden.
May you feel heard in the moments you’ve stayed silent.

And may you remember that your feelings, your story, and your healing matters.

05/02/2026

There is so much truth to this; the masks that they wear. This makes it all the harder, if you decide to leave, because people don't see who you know they are, so they question you or doubt you.

But just because they doubt you that doesn't make your truth any less true.

Know your truth. Believe in your truth. And if you need support, my inbox is always open. 💜

Janet 🌿

Never forget this Survivor 💜

05/01/2026

Hello May 🌿

The snow is finally melting (Yay!).
The ground is softening.
The air feels a little lighter.

After months of cold, stillness, and waiting… spring is slowly arriving.

Growth doesn’t always happen in loud, obvious ways. Sometimes it begins quietly — beneath the surface, in the thawing, in the softening, in the decision to keep going even after a long winter.

May is a reminder that healing and growth often look like small changes at first. A little more light. A little more hope. A little more room to breathe.

Welcome, May. We’re ready for what blooms next. 🌷

04/28/2026

“I know this isn’t good for me…so why do I feel so guilty trying to leave?”

This was one of the hardest parts for me to understand.

When I started creating distance from certain family members…I felt like I was breaking some unspoken rule.

But they’re family.

You stay.
You forgive.
You try harder.
Even when it hurts.

And when I walked away from my abusive marriage…the guilt felt even heavier.
I believed I was letting my children down.
I couldn’t see then that I was actually protecting them.

At the time, all I could think was:
Maybe I just need to be better.
More patient.
More understanding.
More accommodating.
Because somewhere along the way, I learned that keeping the peace mattered more than how I felt.

And this is something I see so often in the people I work with.

They don’t leave because they don’t care.
They stay because they care deeply.

Because guilt isn’t always about doing something wrong.

Sometimes guilt is what happens when you start breaking a pattern your nervous system learned was necessary for survival.

A younger part of you may still believe:
👉 Leaving means abandonment
👉 Boundaries mean rejection
👉 Choosing yourself means hurting others

So even when your adult self knows something isn’t healthy…your body still experiences leaving as a threat.
Not because it is.
But because of what it once meant.

This is why healing isn’t as simple as “just leave.”

Because the body is still trying to keep you safe through familiarity.

✨ The guilt isn’t proof you’re doing the wrong thing. It’s often proof you’re doing something unfamiliar.

And unfamiliar can feel terrifying when your system learned that love came through sacrifice.

When we heal those deeper patterns…
You stop confusing guilt with wrongdoing.
And you start trusting that protecting yourself isn’t selfish.

It’s necessary.

If this resonates, this is the work I do—
helping people gently untangle the deeper roots of guilt, trauma, and attachment so they can move forward without constantly questioning themselves.

You’re always welcome to reach out. 💜

Janet 🩷

04/22/2026

I used to think something was wrong with me…
Because I kept going back.

Back to people I knew didn’t feel good.
Back to relationships that left me drained, confused… sometimes even hurt.

And the hardest part?
A part of me knew it wasn’t healthy.

But something deeper kept pulling me there anyway.

What I didn’t understand at the time is this:
I wasn’t going back to the pain.
I was going back to what my body remembered as safe.

Because those same people…they were also part of a time in my life where I felt loved.
Where my mum was still here.
Where there were moments—real moments—of connection and safety.
And my nervous system held onto that.
Not the full picture.
Just the feeling.

So even when the dynamics changed…even when things became emotionally unsafe again…a part of me was still trying to return to:
“this is where we felt okay once.”

And this is something I now see in so many of the people I work with.

Going back to families or relationships that hurt them.

Staying connected to people who cross their boundaries.

Repeating patterns that, on the surface, don’t make sense.

Not because they’re weak.
Not because they’re choosing pain.
But because their system is wired for one thing first: Safety.

And if safety was once experienced inside an unsafe environment…the body will keep trying to find it there again.

This is why healing isn’t about just “moving on” or “cutting people off.”

Because unless we actually go back and process the original experiences…the nervous system will keep searching for resolution in the same places it learned it.

✨ You’re not going backwards.
✨ You’re not broken.

You’re trying to return to a feeling your body hasn’t fully let go of yet.

And when we heal that at the root…you don’t have to force yourself to choose differently.

You just naturally do.

My inbox is always open. 🩷

Janet 🌿