Michael Kluba - Integrative Virtual Therapy Counselling + Assessments

09/14/2025

🍂Being needed and being loved are not synonymous.

🍁Remember, reciprocal relationships encourage you to lean on them sometimes too.

🍂Relationships are not a one-way street.

🍁Consistent interdependence is key.

🍂Frequent one-sided road construction leads to bio-psycho-social-sexual impacts.

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09/13/2025

🍂A bit of a cruel irony, isn’t it?

09/10/2025

💛Your life means something.

🎗️Today, especially, is often triggering for so many, in various ways, and for a multitude of reasons.

🎗️Please lean on your support networks.

🎗️For Canada and the U.S., call or text the Su***de Crisis Helpline at 9-8-8.

🎗️British Columbia residents can also call the Crisis Intervention and Su***de Prevention Centre of British Columbia at 1-800-SUICIDE (784-2433).

🎗️Alberta residents can also call Alberta Health Services Mental Health Help Line at 1-877-303-2642.

🎗️Saskatchewan residents can also call Mobile Crisis Service at 306-933-6200 for Saskatoon. For Regina, call 306-757-0127.

🎗️Newfoundland and Labrador residents can also call the Mobile Crisis Response Team at 1-888-737-4668 for the St. John’s region.

🎗️In the case of an emergency, and when in doubt, call 9-1-1 or your nearest emergency service.

•I’ve included these specific numbers for the provinces I’m licensed, or have approval, to practice in. 9-8-8 is the Su***de Crisis Helpline for Canada and the U.S., each operated independently with their own services, staff, and infrastructure.

09/09/2025

🍂Our relational and emotional health comes from balancing two core needs: protection and connection (boundaries and intimacy).

09/06/2025

🍂Hi, I’m Michael and I’m a Registered Social Worker, Associate S*x Addiction Therapist, Associate Multiple Addiction Therapist, and an EMDR-Trained Clinician in my solo, integrative, virtual private practice. I’m licensed and/or have approval to work with folks across western Canada in BC, AB, + SK, and in the far east, in NL.

🍁My areas of specialization are in, the often interconnected areas of, compulsive s*xual behaviours, substance use disorders, developmental and relational trauma, and grief.

🍂My research interests are positioned at the intersections of 2SLGBTQ+, disabled, chronically ill, and collectivist adult experiences of enmeshment and emotional (covert) inc*st, using a combined Transcendental-Queer-Neuro phenomenological methodology.

🍁I also identify as a white, cisgender, chronically ill and disabled, gay man who has personal, professional, and academic experiences with behavioural addictions, complex grief, disordered eating, parentification, enmeshment, and emotional inc*st.

🍂I’m a friend, son, brother, uncle, nephew, cousin, and dog parent.

09/02/2025

08/31/2025

🪻This often is not a conscious pattern for enmeshed parents.

08/27/2025

🌻Repeat after me: I do not need permission to take up space.

08/26/2025

🌻We can easily approach this dynamic in a cause-and-effect way - one’s over-functioning or under-functioning because of how the other is functioning.

🌷More often than not, it’s not about cause-and-effect though. Approaching the functioning of the relationship - a system - as a whole, recognizes that neither causes the other, yet each play a part.

▪️This post is not in the context of abuse/coercive control.

•Post inspired by Dr. Michael Kerr on Bowen theory.

08/24/2025

🪻In saying this, it’s important to consider the circumstances, conditioning, and adverse experiences that may have contributed to this pattern developing to begin with.

08/20/2025

🌻Quite frankly, this isn’t a skillset or willingness everyone has, and it has the power - amongst other favourable circumstances - to impact people more than we know.

08/17/2025

🪻…and we typically continue this until we acknowledge it, process our pain, and integrate our own healing.

🌷We can’t only acknowledge these things, and expect for the pattern to break itself.

🌻The pattern fractures when we also develop the skills to sit with our pain, process our adverse experiences, and integrate our healing.