Allan Kehler - Mental Health Advocate

Allan Kehler - Mental Health Advocate Creating a safe space for people to be seen, heard and supported with their mental health. When it comes to mental health, silence is not the answer.

I know first-hand what it feels like to have lost my voice, and I also know what it feels like to have found it. I believe that the only reason why I’m still here today is to carry a message. I know that there are a lot of people who are suffering from the same or similar challenges that I faced. It has become my life’s mission to share my story in hope that it will shed a positive light on the journey of others. I have learned that vulnerability equals strength. The more we share, put our walls down, and get real, the more we connect with others and most importantly ourselves. Together, let’s create a safe, compassionate, and supportive environment that proactively addresses issues of mental wellness. If you are looking to create a culture of care in your workplace, community, or school, I would love to hear from you. For more information please feel free to visit https://www.allankehler.com

We all have to start somewhere. And at some point, we all need someone who believes in us enough to give us an opportuni...
02/06/2026

We all have to start somewhere. And at some point, we all need someone who believes in us enough to give us an opportunity.

In 2013, I was determined to get my message of hope and resilience out into the world. I reached out to numerous conferences across the country and was rejected by every single attempt - except one.

Ryan Jacobson took a chance and gave me an opportunity to speak for the Saskatchewan Safety Council.

Yesterday, he reminded me about the pep talk he gave me in the hallway as I stood on shaky legs.

Fast forward to the present, and Ryan once again provided me with a beautiful opportunity. Only, this one was so much sweeter because I was able to share the main stage with my beautiful wife, Tanya.

This post is a reminder that offering someone an opportunity (especially early on) can make a lasting impact.

Cold weather, long dark days, and post-holiday debt all contribute to what we now refer to as Blue Monday.Recognizing th...
01/19/2026

Cold weather, long dark days, and post-holiday debt all contribute to what we now refer to as Blue Monday.

Recognizing that this is a tough month for many local businesses, the Clarington Board of Trade hosted their third 'Brighten Up Blue Monday' event.

Every table was decorated with beautiful yellow flowers to light up the room, and one person from each table was even able to take them home!

If there was one theme that emerged for me today, it was the power of community.

Bringing people together is critical because it meets our most basic needs - connection, belonging, support, and meaning.

A reminder that we weren’t meant to fight our battles alone.

01/13/2026

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Over the holidays we watched our son, Lucas, leave for Sydney, Australia. That took me back in time because just like hi...
01/05/2026

Over the holidays we watched our son, Lucas, leave for Sydney, Australia. That took me back in time because just like him, I was also 22 years old when I travelled to the land down under. However, when I left, I made the poor decision to quit all my medication. Those pills were managing several mental illnesses including Bipolar Disorder.

This first image was taken during a manic episode where I was convinced that I could fly. Just before jumping off the cliffs, I found the courage to tell my friends about my thoughts. In turn, they promised to do their best to keep me safe.

The second image was taken the day I almost drowned. During a storm, I strolled into the ocean and swam hundreds of feet towards a famous shipwreck. In a drunken state, I even convinced my friend, Brian, to join me. It never crossed either of our minds to wear a life preserver, and we weren’t exactly strong swimmers.

In the prairies, we don’t have things like riptides. But on that afternoon, I received a harsh introduction. Thankfully, Brian did not. Instead, he helplessly watched me fight for my life for what seemed like an eternity.

I look back at this time in my life and recognize that no one could see my mental illness - they just saw someone who was impulsive and reckless.

I think that’s actually the hardest part of mental illness. The pain is real, but it’s hidden. And, when no one can see it, the individual is left feeling both misunderstood and alone.

I am writing this post because it’s yet another reminder that we truly never know what lies beneath the surface for the people around us. I am also writing this as a reminder that hope and mental illness can exist in the same space.

Sure, I still have my challenges today. However, I am no longer afraid to raise my hand in times of need, and I am fortunate to be surrounded with an incredible team of supports.

If you have ever attended one of my talks, you have likely heard me say that there is no logical reason why I should still be alive after the life I led. I firmly believe that I am still down here so that I can carry my message of hope, resilience, and positive change.

Here’s to an incredible 2026!

(If you are interested in learning more about my journey, please see comments for the Amazon link to my memoir)

01/03/2026

I came across this powerful story today, and wanted to share.

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Last Tuesday, at exactly 7:00 PM, I decided to check out of life. My apartment was spotless, my debts were calculated, and the only loose end was Barnaby, my twelve-year-old Golden Retriever, and the grumpy veteran next door who hadn't said a word to me in three years.

You wouldn’t have known I was drowning if you looked at my social media. I’m twenty-nine, a "digital nomad" working three freelance gigs just to pay rent on a shoebox apartment that smells like damp drywall. On the screen, I’m living the dream. In reality, I’m exhausted. It’s not the kind of tired a good night’s sleep can fix. It’s a deep, bone-weary exhaustion from running a race where the finish line keeps moving.

The world feels so loud lately, doesn’t it? Everyone is screaming at each other. The news is a constant feed of doom—inflation, division, anger. I felt like a ghost in my own life, scrolling through photos of friends getting married or buying houses, while I was deciding which meal to skip so I could afford gas. I was isolated, surrounded by millions of digital voices but hearing absolutely no one.

That Tuesday, the silence in my head finally got too loud. I didn't want a scene. I just wanted the noise to stop.

I packed a small bag. Not for me, but for Barnaby. I couldn't leave him alone in the apartment. I grabbed his heavy bag of kibble, his favorite chewed-up tennis ball, and his leash.

I walked down the hall to Apartment 1B. Mr. Miller’s place.

Mr. Miller is a relic. He’s somewhere in his late seventies, built like a brick wall that’s beginning to crumble. He spends his evenings sitting on a folding chair on his porch, staring at the street, a generic can of domestic lager in his hand. He doesn't look at his phone. He just watches the world turn. In three years, our interactions were limited to me nodding and him grunting.

I knocked on the doorframe. The porch light buzzed, attracting moths.

"Yeah?" His voice sounded like gravel crunching under tires.

"Mr. Miller?" I tried to keep my voice steady. "Sorry to bother you. I... I have to go on a trip. A last-minute work thing. California. It came up out of nowhere."

The lie tasted like ash in my mouth. "They don't allow dogs at the corporate housing. I was wondering... I know this is a huge ask, but could you watch Barnaby? Just for tonight? The shelter opens at 8 AM tomorrow. I’ll leave a note for them to come get him. He’s a good boy. He sleeps most of the day."

I held out the leash. My hand was trembling.

Mr. Miller didn't take the leash. He took a long, slow sip of his beer, his eyes fixed on Barnaby. Barnaby, being the traitor he is, wagged his tail and rested his graying muzzle on the old man’s knee.

"California," Miller said. He didn't ask it as a question.

"Yes, sir. Big opportunity."

"Bull," Miller said.

I froze. "Excuse me?"

"I said bull." He set the beer down on the railing. He turned those steel-gray eyes on me. They were sharp, intelligent, and terrifyingly clear. "You ain't going to California, son. You’re wearing the same sweatpants you’ve worn for three days. Your eyes are red. And my wife... she had that same look. The look of someone who’s done fighting."

The air left my lungs. I took a step back, ready to run. "I don't know what you're talking about. I just need someone to take the dog."

"Sit down," he commanded. He kicked a plastic crate toward me.

"I can't, I have to—"

"Sit. Down."

I sat. I don't know why. Maybe because for the first time in months, someone was actually looking at me. Not looking at my profile, not looking at my productivity, but looking at me.

Miller went inside and came back with another cold beer. He cracked it open and handed it to me.

"Drink. It's cheap swill, but it's cold."

We sat in silence for ten minutes. The only sound was the distant hum of traffic and Barnaby panting softly at our feet.

"You know what the problem is with you kids?" Miller asked, breaking the silence. He didn't say it with malice, like the pundits on TV. He said it with a strange kind of sadness.

"We eat too much avocado toast?" I shot back, a weak attempt at defense.

Miller chuckled. A dry, rasping sound. "No. The problem is you think you're alone. You got that whole world in your pocket," he pointed to my phone, "but you don't know the name of the guy who lives ten feet from your head."

He leaned back, looking up at the smoggy sky where a few stars fought to be seen.

"Back in the day... and I know, you hate hearing 'back in the day,' but listen. We didn't have much. My dad worked at the plant, mom stayed home. We were broke half the time. But if my dad’s truck broke down, the neighbor, Jerry, was over with his toolbox before the engine cooled. If someone got sick, there was a casserole on the porch by sunset. We fought, sure. We disagreed on politics. We yelled. But we showed up."

He looked at me. "We’ve traded community for convenience, son. And it’s a bad trade. You’re sitting there thinking you’re a burden. That if you just disappear, the ledger balances out. Zero sum."

I gripped the cold can, fighting the tears that were stinging my eyes. "I'm just tired, Mr. Miller. I'm so tired of trying to keep up."

"I know," he said softly. He reached down and scratched Barnaby behind the ears. "I lost my Martha five years ago. Since then, this porch is the only thing I got. Some days, the silence in that apartment is so heavy I think it’s gonna crush my chest. I sit out here hoping someone will stop. Just to say hello. Just to prove I’m still here."

He looked at me, and I saw it. Beneath the tough, veteran exterior, he was just as lonely as I was. We were two guys from different universes, suffering from the same modern disease.

"The dog knows," Miller said. "Look at him."

Barnaby was pressed against my leg, whining softly. He wasn't looking at the treat in Miller's hand. He was looking at me.

"You leave tonight, that dog waits by the door for a week. He don't understand 'California.' He just understands that his pack left him." Miller took a swig of beer. "And me? I gotta be the one to call the shelter? I gotta be the one to watch them take him away? That’s a hell of a thing to do to a neighbor."

The guilt hit me harder than the sadness.

"I can't keep doing this," I whispered. "I don't have it in me."

"You don't have to do it all at once," Miller said. "You just gotta do tomorrow."

He stood up, his knees popping audibly. "Tell you what. I can't walk good anymore. My hip is shot. But this dog needs walking. You keep the dog. But every morning at 7:00 AM, you bring him here. We drink coffee on the porch. I watch him while you go to work, or look for work, or whatever it is you do on that computer. Then you come back, we have a beer, and you tell me one thing that happened in the world that isn't bad news."

I looked at him. It wasn't a solution to my debt. It didn't fix the economy. But it was a tether. A thin, sturdy rope thrown across the abyss.

"7:00 AM?" I asked.

"7:00 sharp. If you're late, I'm banging on your door. I'm an old man, I wake up early, and I get cranky."

He held out a hand. It was rough, calloused, and stained with engine grease. I took it. His grip was iron.

"Go home, Jason. Unpack your bag. Feed the dog."

I walked back to my apartment. I didn't fix my life that night. I didn't suddenly find a pot of gold. But I unpacked the kibble. I put the leash back on the hook.

I set my alarm for 6:45 AM.

The next morning, I was there. We didn't say much. We just drank black coffee while the neighborhood woke up. But for the first time in years, the morning didn't feel like a threat. It felt like a start.

To anyone reading this who feels like they’re shouting into a void, who feels like the world has moved on without them: You are not a burden. The isolation you feel is a lie sold to you by a system that wants you disconnected.

We are not meant to do this alone.

Look up from the screen. Knock on a door. Sit on a porch. The courage isn't in fighting the whole war by yourself. The courage is in turning to the person next to you and saying, "I'm not okay, can we just sit for a minute?"

Hold on. The world is a mess, but it’s still better with you in it. See you at 7:00 AM.

While waiting to board my plane in Toronto yesterday, a man approached me and said, "Are you Allan?""You bet!" I replied...
12/12/2025

While waiting to board my plane in Toronto yesterday, a man approached me and said, "Are you Allan?"

"You bet!" I replied.

"I heard you speak 6 years ago, and I just wanted to say that your talk saved my life."

I found myself unable to respond, and I continued to listen.

Thanks to a long plane ride, I had a lot of time to think about that conversation.

Me. The guy who was given a month to live if I didn't stop the runaway train. The guy who spent way too many nights wondering if he would make it to the morning.

I never saw any of this coming. And, as I always say, speaking is bigger than me.

Now... no part of me wants this to be a post that put's out the vibe, "Look at me. Look at the impact I am making." Not my style.

My point is to please think about the power of your story. If it can help someone in their time of despair, why would you ever be quiet?

I am not saying that you need to go stand on a stage and share your story with the world. But, your story, the one you may think is too small or too ordinary, might be the lifeline that helps someone to keep fighting.

Please know that your story matters. And, one day, I suspect that someone will choose to keep fighting because you were brave enough to speak.

My challenges with mental illness began at an early age, and I have always fought an internal war to live or die. I stud...
12/03/2025

My challenges with mental illness began at an early age, and I have always fought an internal war to live or die.

I studied kinesiology for a few years, and collected degrees related to physical education. So, theoretically I understand the relationship between physical activity and mental health.

The problem is that my mind tries to convince me that working out will only prolong a life that I often want to end.

The past few months have been tough, and something had to give.

My wife, Tanya, made me commit to playing pickleball and squash at least once a week. Plus, Tanya and the kids have been encouraging me to work out in our basement with them.

Go figure… I have been feeling better.

Following yesterday’s keynote, I decided to walk into the fitness room at the hotel. In 15 years of speaking, I have only done that one other time.

I work on my mental health every day, and I am proud to say that physical activity is now part of my new routine.

If you’re battling a similar voice, just know you are not alone. Every time you push back, you are a step closer to winning the war.

Would you plant a tree today even if you couldn't enjoy the shade?That was the question that Oscar asked me when I arriv...
11/18/2025

Would you plant a tree today even if you couldn't enjoy the shade?

That was the question that Oscar asked me when I arrived at Yellow Quill First Nation yesterday. This simple question guides his mission. By investing time and energy in the youth, he is creating lasting impacts until long after he's gone.

After a life of addiction, incarceration and pain, Oscar has spent the last few years on a healing journey. Recently, he returned to his home community to show the next generation that change is possible. More importantly, he is providing them with a roadmap.

We all need leaders who can guide us. Who was that person for you?

p.s. Thanks for the deer meat. Can’t wait for supper!

I have been fortunate to speak at several men’s mental health events, and what I find interesting is that the majority h...
11/15/2025

I have been fortunate to speak at several men’s mental health events, and what I find interesting is that the majority have been organized by women.

Last night was no different.

Gailene Kazakoff recognized that her community of Slave Lake, Alberta, lacked mental health resources. She put together an organization, but took it a step further.

Last November, Gailene hosted the communities first ever men’s mental health event. And, last night more than 100 people gathered to strengthen a conversation that often gets swept under a rug.

It warmed my heart to see how the local businesses supported this initiative. Even Tim Hortons and McDonalds provided carafes of hot beverages!

Much respect to the entire planning committee for creating this safe space. And, thank you, Joy, for connecting me with Gailene and advocating to bring my message to Slave Lake.

We are stronger together.

When I was three months sober, I drove 300 miles to move in with Tanya and her two boys. I had no job, $40,000 debt, and...
10/20/2025

When I was three months sober, I drove 300 miles to move in with Tanya and her two boys. I had no job, $40,000 debt, and few boxes to my name. Some people said, “What are you doing, Tanya? You can do so much better than him.”

While some people saw me as a ‘nobody’, Tanya always saw me as a ‘somebody’.

Right away, Tanya established boundaries, and made it clear that we were going to move forwards, and not backwards. After years of self-destruction, she provided me with stability, gave me purpose, and offered unconditional love.

Fast-forward 15 years and here we are - stronger than ever. As we prepare to hit the road and share our message, I look back with immense gratitude and pride.

Like Tanya, I believe that one of the most powerful things we can do for someone is to see their potential, especially when they don’t see it in themselves. Everyone has strengths and possibilities waiting to be unlocked. Sometimes, it just takes one person to look beyond flaws and believe in them.

My hope is that you choose to see the potential in others. That belief can be the very spark that leads to transformation.

Keep talking my friends.

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Dustin has been in 20 treatment centres', 15 detox facilities, and he completed drug court. Today, he is 8 years sober a...
10/16/2025

Dustin has been in 20 treatment centres', 15 detox facilities, and he completed drug court. Today, he is 8 years sober and living proof that healing is possible.

No matter how strong or independent we try to be, we can't heal alone. Chief probation officer, Carla Stalnaker, saw much more than an 'addict'. She stood by Dustin, offering unwavering belief and support. Thanks to Carla, Dustin was one of the first people to graduate from the drug court program and return to be employed as a coordinator.

Dustin and Carla were in the audience during my keynote, and with their permission, I shared their remarkable story. Once done, it was met with a loud ovation as we recognized the profound impact that we can have on those around us.

Much respect, Dustin, for earning your freedom. And, thank you, Carla for reminding us that we all need someone to remind us of our worth.

Keep talking my friends.

In this fast-paced world, we are constantly juggling responsibilities and navigating through new challenges. My hope is ...
10/03/2025

In this fast-paced world, we are constantly juggling responsibilities and navigating through new challenges. My hope is that today you take time to pause and reflect on your journey.

Take time for gratitude.

Think about all of the battles that you have fought. Reflect on the fears that you have silenced and the moments you thought you couldn’t go on, and yet somehow did.

This morning, I came across these pictures. Early in my recovery I lost my license due to seizures. Just when I was getting my life back I felt crushed.

My soon to be wife, Tanya, bought me a bike to get to work and helped shift my perspective. She left a note on my desk titled 'Reasons Why It's OK that Al Can't Drive' with 20 bullet points below.

And, when I was finally able to get my license back, I walked through the front door greeted with signs and a cake. Like who does that!!!

Not every chapter of your story will be easy, but every one of them matters.

The lows reveal what you’re made of, and the highs remind you what’s possible.

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Empowering People to LIVE

I spent a significant amount of my life persevering through mental health issues and addiction. For years, I suffered in silence as I hid behind a fake smile. And because I didn’t talk about my pain I suffered more than anyone else.

After years of walking around like a victim I finally understood that if I wanted change, I was the only person in a position of power to create this change. I discovered that my voice was my greatest tool, and I began to ask for what I needed.

Today, I speak in the hopes of empowering others to use their voices in times of need. In the same way, I teach people how to respond to those who are in pain. Nobody needs to be fixed, but the value of being seen and heard is immeasurable.