Bee Well with Michelle

10/01/2025

As the season changes we can accept and embrace the reminder that we too need change.

08/13/2025

It is okay, heck even important sometimes, to make it known and say aloud

08/09/2025

Things to notice for...

07/15/2025

Some good questions recently about healing relationships, if there is such a thing as maintenance in relationships and how to create healthy relationships.

Real or healthy relationships don't end with you got the person you wanted to be with.

Relationships take time, dedication, commitment, realistic expectations, clear boundaries, strong and clear communication, flexibility, care, interest, curiosity, fun, laughter, and more.. this builds a trusting foundation for honest and open experiences both together and when out with others and coming back together to share.

Set and share real

06/20/2025

Change can happen, so long as you know what you're working with. Reach out. Get support. Stay the course. Good luck.

06/16/2025

Do not mistake the "cute" dog for the message delivered. The reality is it is dangerous and psychological.

The reactive abuse that narcissists entice, and then use against the hurt person is palatable and only to serve their means of victimhood and as a mechanism of coercion control. This is feeling like you know it's wrong but also cannot choose what's correct or best for yourself because of fear of further retaliation, isolation, threat to yourself or others, being ridiculed, berated, and so forth. The means is to keep you guessing while they blame and attack yet never take accountability for their own actions, behaviours, words.

They cannot fathom for a moment that they've been the problem and that questioning their behaviours is okay to do. Instead they further escalate a situation and find more to derail from what they've done or are doing and get louder and nasty to create further discomfort to the questioning or non-binding person they are trying to manipulate and control in attempt to further control that very person. Steady the course. Seek support. Talk it out.

Reactive abuse = a common manipulation tactic that places the blame for the abuse onto the abused

Coercive control = pattern of behaviour that in purpose and effect unreasobly interferes with the liberty or freewill of a person

05/18/2025

04/15/2025

Helpful hints for removing, recovering, healing, letting go and moving on from toxic/narcissistic people. It can be challenging. Changing your beliefs and recreating wellness means doing things with boundaries daily to remind yourself and manage the change. Good friendships, objective coworkers, healthy partners any combination of people that will not take sides, just allow room for movement, exchange, betterment and hold space that the change is challenging will help with taking the necessary steps.

04/15/2025

If we know what traits are toxic, how come people stay by the narcissistic person? Great question. It gets asked often. There is, of course, a variety of reasons/causes that people wi stick by the toxic/narcissistic individual. These often look like:
1) Some people are genuinely empathetic and loyal and stand by in constant hope of a different outcome; only to be let siren again and again and again....
2) Some people are so fearful of becoming the receiver of such deceit and manipulation that there seems to be little recourse and therefore they stay close enough to stay out of the line if fire from the toxic individual.
3) Some people stay close for so long and they begin to absorb some of the rhetoric and traits as their own, almost similar to mob mentality somewhat, where they do as is done because they question or perhaps do not have strong values or moral compass to allow themselves to be separate over length of time interacting with the toxic/ narcissistic individual. Here are some ways of noticing, checking for, and acknowledging if this is someone you can identify.
Best course of action: clear unwavering boundaries, seek support, and self care.

04/08/2025

People Pleasing is a learned response. As humans, we often like and even aim to please people we care about; people pleasing is not the same. It may be a trauma response, and for some people, it increases over time, becoming impossible to keep up with. If the image is relatable, there is still room to repair, build self-identity, increase self-esteem, and learn helpful self-care behaviours versus people pleasing reactions. It can be changed. What does change look like? Being able to say no. Holding space for wrongdoings of others that are not yours to clean up, justify, hide, or pretend do not matter in how it effects you. Take back, claim, identify, build a stronger, more confident self. Your needs and wants matter, too.

03/10/2025

Recovery and healing from trauma, setbacks, life bloopers, toxic relationships, work chaos, and so forth, all require working in emotion regulation to regain balance and set forward motion.