Brian Dean Williams - Registered Clinical Counsellor

04/23/2026

SO much going on with men in the world right now and as men trying to do better, it can be confusing how to start.

Here's what one of our guys said after completing our Ask Her course. If any of this sounds familiar, we start April 27th.

"When I look back on the intimate relationships in my life, a pattern that emerges is how much trouble I had communicating the tricky stuff with my partner. I'd just bottle things up or pretend it's no big deal — I can just go on vibes.

I think a lot of guys have a similar tendency. Overcoming it — paying attention to the things I'm afraid to mention, and finding a vocabulary to discuss them — hasn't just improved my marriage. It's also improved my relationship with myself."

Ask Her is a skills course for men
8 weeks, online, small group.
Practical skills most of us were never taught.

Starts April 27th. A few spots remaining. Comment below or send me a message if you're interested — or forward this to a guy who'd benefit.

04/16/2026

Sources of Hope for working with men on healthy masculinity.

This is a clip from a long form conversation that I had with my friend last summer on his podcast

What gives YOU hope for men and men's healing?

04/14/2026

Today is the 10-year anniversary of toxic drugs being declared a public health emergency in BC.

In that time, I have lost a very close male friend who was a therapist, 5 male therapy clients, and multiple members of my community. Of course the toxic drug supply affects all genders, but men account for 77 to 80% of overdose deaths in BC. They often die in despair, and alone.

I am so sorry if you have been impacted as well.

Check on the dudes in your life.

We need to support one another.

We need robust options for both harm reduction and recovery resources.

Much love to all:

Brian

Experts say they worry the province hasn’t used all the powers available that come with a public health emergency, and is leaning on public opinion rather than science to inform policy.

04/03/2026

Most men ask what their partner did today.

Very few ask how she felt in her relationships today.

That one shift changes everything.

Try this: "Was there anyone who really listened to you today, and how did that make you feel?"

Save this for when you get stuck, or forward it to your partner — and watch what opens up.

Comment on how it goes, I read every one.

Ask Her cohort open now — link in bio.

04/02/2026

Most men ask what their partner did today.

Very few ask how she felt in her relationships today.

That one shift changes everything.

Try the question in this Reel tonight — and watch
what opens up.

Comment on how it goes, I read every one.

Follow for more. Ask Her cohort open now — link in bio.

04/01/2026

"How was your day?" might be the most well-intentioned yet ineffective question in relationships. Most men were never taught how to ask better questions. That's not a character flaw, it's just a knowledge gap. So try this tonight instead 👆

What's a question that's actually worked for you with your partner? Drop it below — I'm genuinely curious.

Follow for more. Ask Her cohort open now — link in bio.

03/28/2026

Decay and beauty at Playa El Tecolote

01/27/2026

Sourdough, I'm back in the game

DM me for a simple recipe that's really working for us

01/08/2026

Most men were never taught how to be curious in their intimate relationships.

“Hey, how was your day?”
Is well-intended — but it often lands flat.

Connection and intimacy deepen when questions invite meaning, not summaries.

Try this instead:
👉 “What happened today that was important to you?”
👉 “Why was that important to you?”

These kinds of questions communicate presence, care, and emotional intelligence.

My program ASK HER is designed specifically for men who want to build stronger, more connected relationships with women — by learning how to ask better questions.

If this resonates, comment below or DM me “ASK HER” and I’ll send you the details.

01/06/2026

Most men I work with care deeply about their partners.
They’re thoughtful. They’re trying. They want to do masculinity in a healthier way.

And still, they might hear things like:
“You don’t ask me anything.”
“I don’t feel emotionally met.”

This usually isn’t about motivation.
It’s about skill.

Most men were never taught how to ask questions that feel emotionally safe, curious, and connecting—especially with women.

That’s what this work is about.
Not fixing men.
Not blaming anyone.
Just learning how to show up with better questions.

I'm a therapist and an expert in asking good questions.
If this resonates, I’m running a small online course called Ask Her, for men focused on building this skill intentionally.

DM me or comment ASK and I’ll send you the details.

12/25/2025

Whether it's a tricky day or one of celebration, wishing you all the happiness and connection that you deserve. If you are grieving, grieve beautifully and honor those who have gone beyond. If you are celebrating, do so fully. Life is short and precious. Grateful for this rare gift of being alive, and the multiple sources and reminders of connection, including you.

✌️🙏🎄💓

12/01/2025

Crock pickles