04/10/2026
When I say good girl or good boy… what comes to your mind?
We say it to our children.
We say it to our pets.
And somewhere along the way… we start saying it to ourselves.
If a dog is “good,” it usually means they fit into the mold of how we, as humans, want them to behave.
Maybe their breeding supports it… maybe they’ve learned the rules.
And honestly—for a dog—that’s not such a bad thing.
But what about for people?
A good girl behaves the way she thinks is acceptable.
She is quiet. Polite. Easy.
She minds her P’s and Q’s.
And over time she learns to shrink.
To smooth things over.
To become the welcome mat;
letting others walk into her home with dirty, muddy feet.
No questions asked.
I’m thinking of my granddaughter right now.
She is FULL OF SASS.
And I love it.
It makes me laugh… and yes, it pokes at those old “good girl” rules still living in me.
But that spark? That fire? That truth?
That’s the good stuff.
Because too many of us were taught to trade that fire in—
in order to be liked
to be approved of
to not look “bad.”
And in doing that… we lost pieces of ourselves.
So what if we did it differently?
What if we worked on being truer instead of just “good”?
Still kind.
Still loving.
But rooted in a quiet, powerful knowing of—
this is who I am.
And NO
you don’t get to walk into my house with muddy boots anymore.
