The Dragonflies Den

08/09/2025

Release all that no longer serves you with the power of the full moon!!

08/07/2025

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06/24/2025

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06/24/2025

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06/19/2025

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06/17/2025

Thank you Marilyn Dometraschuk for joining my zoom tonight. You don't know how much I appreciate you and your friendship. Thank you ladies that always join me and share stories and questions. Tonight helped me get back to centre and trust my guides and my highest self. Thank you all again. Looking forward to next month, what should we incorporate into it?

06/17/2025

The Tarot Card of the Day Is...

The Queen of Pentacles can very easily be equated with Mother Nature. She embodies all of the traits of Mother Earth and is both practical and nurturing. She is also successful, as is noted by the lush surroundings she is in.

The rabbit in the card symbolizes fertility. She may like babies, have many children, or embody the spirit of a woman that is very good with children, and treats each child on the planet as if they are her own. As nurturing and loving as the Queen of Pentacles is, she is also practical, logical, and methodical. She makes a good CEO in a work setting as much as she makes a good homemaker or partner in love. She could be a gardener! She loves things around her to be beautiful, and she is counted on as the warm nurturer of the group or family and is a very good listener. She is humble and doesn't need to be the center of attention. Instead, she is the wallflower that everyone wants to meet because everybody likes her. Not only does the Queen of Pentacles have connections socially, but you can't help but love her.

If this Queen is showing up in your day or reading, the Tarot is telling you to embody these traits in the situation that you are asking about. Or, someone may come into your situation with these traits to help. The Queen of Pentacles is not emotional, but rather methodical and practical. When she appears, the Tarot is telling you to embody this demeanor in your current situation.

06/09/2025

The 5-Minute Morning Gratitude Routine That Changed My Perspective

I used to wake up and immediately reach for my phone, diving headfirst into emails, news, and social media. My mornings felt rushed, anxious, and reactive. Then, six months ago, I discovered a simple 5-minute gratitude routine that fundamentally shifted how I experience each day.

The Routine That Changed Everything

Here's exactly what I do every morning, before checking any devices:

Minute 1: Physical Awareness
I sit up in bed and take three deep breaths. Then I mentally scan my body, appreciating its basic functions—my heartbeat, my ability to breathe without effort, the absence of pain. This grounds me in the present moment.

Minutes 2-3: Three Specific Gratitudes
I identify three specific things I'm grateful for from the previous day. The key word is specific. Instead of "I'm grateful for my family," I think, "I'm grateful for the way my daughter laughed when we played cards last night." This specificity makes the gratitude feel real, not forced.

Minute 4: One Person
I think of one person who has positively impacted my life and mentally thank them. Sometimes it's someone obvious like my partner; other times it's the barista who remembered my order or a colleague who helped with a project. I often text or email them later in the day.

Minute 5: Setting Intention
I ask myself: "What's one way I can spread gratitude today?" It might be complimenting a coworker, calling a friend, or simply being more patient in traffic. This transforms gratitude from a passive feeling into active practice.

What Changed

The shifts were subtle at first, then profound:

My Stress Response Improved
Starting the day from a place of abundance rather than scarcity changed how I handled challenges. Problems felt more manageable when I remembered everything that was already working in my life.

I Became More Observant
Knowing I'd need three specific gratitudes the next morning made me pay attention throughout the day. I started noticing small moments of beauty, kindness, and connection I'd previously rushed past.

My Relationships Deepened
Regularly reaching out to thank people strengthened my connections. Friends and family members started sharing that my messages brightened their days, creating a positive feedback loop.

The Negativity Bias Lost Its Grip
Our brains naturally focus on threats and problems—it's how we survived as a species. This routine became my daily counterweight to that negativity bias, training my brain to also see what's going right.

The Compound Effect

What surprised me most was the compound effect. Five minutes each morning—just 35 minutes per week—created a lens of appreciation that colored my entire life. I didn't become blindly optimistic or ignore real problems. Instead, I developed what I call "grounded gratitude"—the ability to acknowledge challenges while maintaining perspective on the good.

Starting Your Own Practice

If you want to try this, here's my advice:

Start tomorrow morning—not someday, not Monday. Tomorrow.

Set your phone across the room so you can't reach for it immediately upon waking.

Keep it simple—don't overcomplicate the routine with apps or journals initially.

Be patient—it took about two weeks before this felt natural.

Miss a day? No guilt—just begin again the next morning.

The Bottom Line

This 5-minute routine didn't solve all my problems or turn me into a perpetually cheerful person. What it did was help me see my existing life more clearly—with all its imperfections and gifts. In a world that constantly tells us we need more to be happy, this practice reminds me daily that I already have enough to be grateful.

The best part? It requires nothing but a few quiet minutes and an open mind. No equipment, no subscription, no expertise—just you, showing up for five minutes to acknowledge the good that's already there, waiting to be noticed.

06/07/2025

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06/05/2025

The Self-Esteem Workout: Building Mental Strength Like Physical Fitness

Just like sculpting your body requires consistent trips to the gym, building robust self-esteem demands regular mental workouts. The parallels are striking: both require dedication, progressive challenges, and rest days. Most importantly, both transform not just how you look or feel, but how you move through the world.

Think of your self-esteem as a muscle group that's been neglected. Maybe it's weak from years of negative self-talk, or perhaps it's never been properly trained. The good news? Like any muscle, it responds remarkably well to targeted exercises and consistent practice.

Your Mental Gym Routine

Start with the basics—your warm-up. Each morning, practice "thought push-ups" by identifying and challenging one negative assumption about yourself. If your brain says "I'm terrible at public speaking," counter with evidence: "I successfully presented to my team last month." This isn't toxic positivity; it's building mental strength through factual resistance training.

Next, move to your main workout: the small wins celebration. Just as you'd track reps at the gym, keep a "victory log" of daily accomplishments, no matter how minor. Made that difficult phone call? Write it down. Chose salad over fries? That counts. These aren't participation trophies—they're proof that you're capable of positive choices and forward movement.

Progressive Overload for the Mind

In weightlifting, progressive overload means gradually increasing resistance to build strength. Apply this principle mentally by slowly expanding your comfort zone. This week, give one genuine compliment daily. Next week, accept compliments without deflecting. The following week, volunteer to lead a small meeting. Each challenge builds upon the last, creating sustainable growth.

The "Mirror Work" exercise serves as your form check. Spend two minutes looking yourself in the eyes and stating three things you appreciate about yourself—not just physical attributes, but character traits, skills, or recent actions you're proud of. Yes, it feels awkward at first. So did your first squat.

Rest and Recovery

Just as overtraining leads to injury, constantly pushing yourself without self-compassion leads to burnout. Build in mental rest days where you practice radical self-acceptance. On these days, your only job is to treat yourself with the same kindness you'd show a good friend.

Remember, you wouldn't expect to bench press 200 pounds after one gym session. Similarly, deeply ingrained patterns of low self-esteem won't transform overnight. But with consistent practice, you'll notice changes: negative thoughts lose their grip, you bounce back faster from setbacks, and that inner critic's voice gets quieter.

Your Training Plan Starts Now

Today, commit to just one mental exercise. Maybe it's the thought push-up, or perhaps you'll start that victory log. Whatever you choose, approach it like any fitness goal: with patience, consistency, and the understanding that every rep counts.

Your self-esteem muscle is ready to grow stronger. The only question is: are you ready to start training?