02/23/2025
Very well said on the need to go within to find freedom and peace.
"Your suffering is never caused by the person you're blaming."
Blame is an easy escape, but it never leads to freedom and encases you in a prison of false perception. Itâs tempting to believe that suffering is caused by someone elseâthat their words, their actions, or their choices are the reason for the pain. But what if the real source of suffering isnât what they did, but the way it is perceived, processed, and held onto?
The mind has a way of creating narratives. It builds stories around pain, assigning fault and attaching emotions to past wounds. But the moment blame is given away, power is also given away. Blame keeps the focus outward, waiting for someone else to change, apologize, or make things right. But what if peace doesnât depend on their actions? What if it has always been an internal choice?
No one can control how others act. People will make mistakes, they will be unfair, they will disappoint. But what happens nextâthe response, the emotions carried forward, the way the situation is interpretedâis entirely within personal control. And this is where true strength lies: in realizing that suffering isnât created by the external, but by the attachment to what cannot be changed.
Personal accountability is not about excusing othersâitâs about reclaiming power. Itâs the understanding that while pain is real, suffering is optional. Itâs the choice to see difficult situations as lessons instead of burdens, to shift perspective from victimhood to growth. The world will not always be kind, but inner peace is not determined by external forces.
Letting go of blame is not about denying hurt; itâs about refusing to let it define the future. When responsibility is taken for thoughts, reactions, and emotions, life no longer feels like something that happens *to* you, but something shaped *by* you.
Freedom begins the moment responsibility is claimed. The choice is always there: to remain bound by blame or to step forward in strength. In the end, the only true control is over oneself, and that is where real peace is found.
