01/30/2026
If saying yes feels automatic, but afterward you feel drained, tense, or quietly resentful; this isn’t a flaw.
It’s a pattern that once helped you stay safe, connected, or approved. And patterns can be updated.
You don’t have to become colder, harder, or “better at boundaries” overnight.
Change often starts in the smallest moments; when you pause, notice, and give yourself permission to choose differently.
Growth doesn’t mean caring less. It means including yourself in the equation.