12/15/2023
This is one of the best things I've listened to in a long time. Dealing with narcissists is a really big topic of conversation these days. We live in a world that narcissism thrives. Materialism, power, consumerism, lack of consciousness and self awareness... are breeding grounds to turn anyone into a narcissist. Most narcissists don't know they are narcissists... but some people are sociopathic narcissists.
Sociopathic narcissists are dangerous because they talk about narcissism in a negative way and say things that make you believe and trust them, then they slowly erode your confidence, point out your flaws, use things you've shared with them in a vulnerable state against you, offer to help you, then ignore your needs.
Once you fall, they kick you when your down. If you stand back up on your own, they convince you to lie down again and remind you how weak you are and that they will protect you.
Once you catch on to a narcissist and stand up to them, or worse, go against their "advice" and want to get control of your own life again, they'll get mad. They'll tell you how upset they are, how disappointed you made them, how used they feel. They'll use phrases that people use to describe them and turn it around on you... saying they feel gaslit. Then they'll call you "Honey" or "Sweetheart" or "Babe" after they've torn you to shreds with their words and say that they wouldn't say these things if you hadn't upset them so much.
And then they end the conversation as if nothing happened, leaving you really really confused and giving you no room to question what just happened. They're dismissive and will probably even mention how busy they are and they have no time for this ridiculous conversation (that they hijacked and turned around on you), shutting down anything you may have wanted to say in the first place.
Narcissists are easy to spot, once you get good at seeing them, but some are wolves in sheep's clothing. Trust your instincts and watch for red flags. Once spotted, don't engage, try not to take anything they say personally, and walk away.
N.b. A narcissist will always assume you're talking about them and will get defensive if you bring up the subject of narcissism... or end the relationship before you do and blame it on you.
https://fb.watch/oYk89FJWPF/?mibextid=CDWPTG
