Speak Hope JK

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01/26/2026

A client said anxiety isn’t just something we have lately— it’s something we’re swimming in.

I kind of understand what she is feeling.

This message from Rupi Kaur lands quietly but deeply.

So many of us feel:
• overwhelmed
• claustrophobic in our own lives
• unsafe in ways we can’t always name
• uncertain — not just personally, but collectively

The world feels heavy right now. And our nervous systems feel it.

That’s why connection matters more than pushing through.
That’s why checking in with your window of tolerance matters more than ignoring the signals.
That’s why slowing down isn’t avoidance — it’s regulation.

If you’re feeling anxious, you’re not broken.
Your body is responding to a lot.

I hope you find a moment of peace, grounding, and ease today.
And a reminder that you don’t have to hold it all alone.

— SpeakHope Counseling 🤍

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01/23/2026

We all want more closeness with our partner.
More harmony.
And honestly… who doesn’t want the benefits of more intimacy?

But most couples try to get there by fixing communication or winning arguments.
What actually brings couples closer is safety.

In trauma work, safety is the foundation.
And in relationships, it’s no different.

Most times, men struggle with this more than women—and that’s not a character flaw.
It’s conditioning.
It’s how many men were raised: don’t feel too much, don’t show it, push through.

So when men are asked to understand or provide emotional safety, it can trigger frustration, anger, shutdown, or a stone wall.
Not because they don’t care—but because no one ever taught them what safety actually looks like.

Safety isn’t avoiding conflict.
It’s knowing your partner won’t dismiss you, shame you, or disappear when things get uncomfortable.

When safety is present, closeness grows naturally.
When it’s missing, even love feels tense.

This is why this work matters.

Here’s a simple practice I give couples:
Ask your partner, “What helps you feel safe with me?”
Then listen—without defending, fixing, or explaining.

If you and your partner want deeper connection, this is where growth starts.
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Follow for more couples work, or reach out if you’re ready to do this work together.

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01/13/2026

In this room at SpeakHope every feeling gets a seat at the table.
Afraid. Angry. Loving. Disappointed. Hopeful.
We don’t rush past emotions here—we listen to them.

01/10/2026

One action I’m proud of wasn’t quitting drinking.
It was finally getting honest about why I drank.

For a long time, alcohol helped me survive loneliness, old attachment wounds, and the belief that I had to carry everything alone.
But survival strategies eventually stop working.

Doing the work meant learning what was underneath the pain—
so I could be the husband my wife believed in
and the father my kids already saw.

Healing didn’t make me someone new.
It helped me follow through on who I always hoped I could be.

If you’re ready to stop numbing and start understanding what’s underneath, reach out.

Friday check-in:✅ one win🛠️ one repair🎯 one small changeSave this and do it before you scroll. What’s yours? Bo...
01/10/2026

Friday check-in:
✅ one win
🛠️ one repair
🎯 one small change
Save this and do it before you scroll. What’s yours?

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01/09/2026

Healing doesn’t always feel good.
Sometimes it feels flat, quiet, or uncomfortable.
That doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong.
It often means your nervous system is learning safety.

01/06/2026

POV: You run your own practice and this is how you emotionally regulate between sessions.
Don’t ask. Don’t judge. Just book. 😂

January is when alcohol stops lying.The buzz is gone. The body remembers. The anxiety, the low mood, the “why do I feel ...
01/06/2026

January is when alcohol stops lying.

The buzz is gone. The body remembers. The anxiety, the low mood, the “why do I feel off?” feeling that shows up when the distractions fade.

I’ve been alcohol-free for over five years. Not because life got easier, but because I wanted to deal with it honestly. In my work, I see this all the time — people aren’t weak, they’re tired and trying to cope the best way they know how.

Alcohol doesn’t fix that. It just puts it off.

If January feels heavier than you expected, you don’t have to numb it or white-knuckle it. Start with staying present. And if you want help doing the real work, I’m here.

01/05/2026

The future version of you isn’t built by wishing.
It’s built by releasing what no longer fits.

Old patterns. Old reactions. Old ways of protecting yourself that once made sense — but don’t serve you anymore.

Growth asks a real question:
What are you willing to let go of to become who you know you can be?

If you’re ready to do that work with support, therapy can help.




01/05/2026

Today feels different.

Thoughts are still there.
Feelings still come and go.
But there’s a little more presence.

The holiday season is closing up.
School is about to start.
Work is about to start.
Life is stepping back in.

And instead of rushing past that feeling,
I’m sitting with it.

Not better.
Not worse.
Just more aware.

Ten minutes of stillness.
Letting the nervous system catch up
before the pace picks up again.

This is what reset actually looks like.
Not escaping life —
but meeting it more grounded.

01/03/2026

The stories we place in front of children quietly shape how they see themselves, others, and the world.
Diverse authors, cultures, and social truths aren’t “extra”—they’re foundational.

As a trauma therapist, I see how early messages become lifelong beliefs.
Representation is prevention.

Goodnight Racism — Ibram X. Kendi 📚🌱

01/03/2026

Today feels different.

Thoughts are still there.
Feelings still come and go.
But there’s a little more presence.

The holiday season is closing up.
School is about to start.
Work is about to start.
Life is stepping back in.

And instead of rushing past that feeling,
I’m sitting with it.

Not better.
Not worse.
Just more aware.

Ten minutes of stillness.
Letting the nervous system catch up
before the pace picks up again.

This is what reset actually looks like.

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