A Place for your Heart- Janice Inch, Registered Professional Counsellor

11/06/2024

“A universal trait of traumatized people is they don’t know how to ask for help“
Gabor Mate

10/01/2024

“Once we’ve adopted a survival mechanism, it's not easy to get rid of. It becomes a habit. Not being authentic becomes a habit.” — Dr. Gabor

02/06/2024

Sometimes you just need help to work it through. Grief comes with many faces, not just death. Betrayal, divorce, job loss, health issues, empty nest, retirement. Are you grieving ?

01/30/2024

A good test of relationship is how a person responds to the word “NO”.
Love respects “no “, control does not.

Henry Cloud

01/29/2024

Recognize these statements like old tapes that play over and over again in your head???… what we therapists call “stinkin thinken.” They became a self fulfilling prophecy. They are lies and you deserve better!

04/19/2022

4 criteria for rational thoughts ..ask yourself, is what I am thinking…
1. Is it factually true?
2. Is it in my best interest ?
3. Does it get me what you want?
4. Does it protect or prolong my
life?
If the answer is no, then there is too much emotion around the thoughts. It’s difficult to be logical and emotional at the same time. That’s when you can get into trouble making bad decisions or say something you will regret. The emotion needs to be drained off & processed so you can make ADULT decisions. HOW?
Talk to a professional counsellor.
Talk to someone you feel safe with.
Journal.
Ask yourself what am I mad about?
What am I scared about?
What am I sad about?
What am I glad about?

04/03/2022

Relationships
“Our connection with other people is only as solid & deep as our connection with ourselves. In order for me to be connected to you I have to know who I am. I have to be connected to myself. I think what we end up doing is desperately searching for connection with other people when we have no idea who we are.”
Brene Brown

03/30/2022

Excited to announce I’m and providing services on LinkedIn. Check out my services page for Professional counselling services. My passion is for relationships and marriage as well as working with women on self esteem issues.
Hurt people hurt people, damaging relationships. Understanding the importance of healthy boundaries, understanding how the past can be affecting unhealthy choices you are making today.

01/12/2022

03/12/2021

SHAME
Healing shame will require:
1.) becoming fully aware of your shame
2.) noticing your defences against shame ( hiding,lying,avoiding, addictions)
3.) accepting a certain amount of shame as part of the human condition
4.) challenging shame
5.) setting positive goals for yourself to help replace your shame with self value (worth)
Healing shame means moving toward humanity, humility, autonomy, & competence.
“I am human and imperfect, no better and no worse than others, unique and good enough as I am.”
Shame must be faced courageously for it to be useful. The person who is terrified of her shame and only wants to avoid it gains nothing except pain and fear. The person who will stand up to her shame grows right through her discomfort into a richer more meaningful awareness of who she is and what she is doing on this planet. Shame can be paired with hope just as well as with despair.
“Letting Go of Shame “ Potter-Enron

03/11/2021

FIVE FREEDOMS by Virginia Satir
1. The freedom to see and hear what is here instead of what should be, was, or will be.
2. The freedom to say what one feels and thinks instead of what one should.
3. The freedom to feel what one feels, instead of what one ought to.
4. The freedom to ask what one wants, a set of always waiting for permission.
5. The freedom to take risks on one's own behalf, instead of choosing to be only secure instead of not rocking the boat.