02/09/2026
Writing a Eulogy, a Helpful Approach
It’s an honour to give a eulogy, but it can be a stressful undertaking during a time of immense grief. There’s so much to say, but it’s often hard to turn thoughts into words. While there is no easy way to summarize a life, following are a few tips to help write a beautiful eulogy to honour your loved one.
1. Start with a meaningful quote, a brief anecdote or a heartfelt memory to set the tone.
2. A eulogy shouldn’t read like an obituary timeline. Instead, focus on the rich life experiences that mattered most: career achievements, personal accomplishments, personality traits and the impact the person had on others. Through colourful memories, you are essentially bringing the loved one’s legacy to life.
3. Stories are much more meaningful than facts, so share some favourite memories, their best qualities or what made them happiest. Don’t be afraid to use humour or pull at the heartstrings.
4. Conclude with a lasting memory, such as a favourite quote or a final story to leave everyone with a sense of closure and maybe even a smile through their tears.
5. Time-wise, a well-delivered eulogy is delivered in five to 10 minutes and is equal to between 700 to 1,200 words. Care needs to be taken to be concise, so that the message is clear and captivating.
A eulogy isn’t just a speech; it’s a heartfelt tribute to someone who is no longer with us, celebrating both their life and the legacy they have left behind. It’s also an opportunity to bring comfort to those who are grieving, providing a moment of togetherness and reflection, which, if done well, will leave a lasting impact.
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