01/09/2026
No one talks about how exhausting grief is.....
I have personally watched friends grieve the loss of long time spouses ( over 50 years together).
You cannot compare grief...... as I watch silently, the first friend, the morning after loosing her husband was up with her list, the other friend, still stuck in her grief 3 years later, does the same thing every day that she did with her spouse. The second friend still talks about her him 3 years laters as if he is still here.
We have to honor how each person grieves, there is no right or wrong.
Being stuck in the heaviness of grief, makes it hard to see the simple signs that they are with us.....so many people ask me "Why haven't I had a sign?"
Its where you go in your brain to survive, the state you are in is survival...a fear based brain. In time that will lift.
I promise they are around, your survival brain just prevents you from being able to process that it really is a sign.
It's okay, grieve the way you need to...there is no right or wrong way.
