08/06/2023
Do you struggle with negative inner dialogue? This was HUGE for me! 🙋♀️ No one in my life spoke to me the way I talked to myself, and over time this began to take its toll. I was exhausted from being a total jerk to myself! I knew I had to flip the script inside my head, STAT! Here’s how I did it! 👇
1. Awareness, awareness, awareness. When a limiting thought pops into your head, shift into being the one who observes the thought. You don't have to believe it just because it's there!
2. Take a breath. Create space between the negative thought and yourself. This will allow for a change in perception to begin to take place. You can even place your hand on your heart as a physical reminder to connect to yourself with compassion.
3. Flip it! Write down the limiting thought and counter it with a positive affirmation. This will help begin to rewire a new neural pathway.
4. Repetition, repetition, repetition! Your intent here is to drown out the old inner dialogue with more positive affirmations and reaffirm this newly created neural pathway until it becomes the dominant pathway.
Your subconscious mind is the driving force behind 95% of your behaviour. This part of your brain seeks to keep you safe by picking up on what is repetitive in your environment, even if the repetitive content is toxic AF! The subconscious mind will get you to act out what it considers familiar. In this case, my constant negative self-talk became most familiar. Now I actively choose to seek out the better feeling feeling.
This reframing takes time and practice. On the days when I’m feeling a little vulnerable, I wear this keychain necklace that holds a picture of my sister and me when we were children. It serves as a reminder to speak to myself in the now with the kindness and compassion I would if I was talking to the little me. 🤍
