08/13/2025
For most of my life, I struggled to say “no.”
Not in my personal choices, but in my work and the way I showed up publicly.
Somewhere inside, I believed that saying “no” made me unkind, unhelpful, or even selfish.
So I kept saying “yes.”
Yes to collaborations with people I barely knew, simply because they reached out.
Yes to helping when my body was already tired.
Yes to projects that didn’t feel aligned, just to maintain the “nice girl” image.
Yes because I cared too much about what people might think of me if I declined.
I confused niceness with kindness.
Niceness often bends and breaks itself to keep the peace.
Kindness, on the other hand, stands in truth.
Kindness protects energy so it can be given where it matters most.
The truth is, every “yes” that goes against my intuition quietly erodes my power.
Every time I agree to something I don’t feel aligned with, I leave less space for what my soul actually came here to do.
Now, I’m learning.
Learning that “no” can be one of the most loving words we speak - to ourselves and to others.
Learning that my “no” is a filter, keeping what drains me out of my field, so what nourishes me can enter.
Learning that I don’t need to over-explain or justify my boundaries.
It’s not about being cold, distant, or uncaring.
It’s about protecting the sacredness of my “yes.”
I am a kind person.
And my kindness includes honouring the spaces and seasons where I cannot give.
My kindness includes the honesty of a clear “no.”
Each time I speak it from truth, I feel my life align more closely with what I am here to live.
✨ What about you?
Where is life asking you to choose the sacred “no” so you can step into the “yes” that’s waiting?
