Polly Florius Counselling & Consulting

04/20/2026

Some people will betray you. That’s reality. Not everyone who walks into your life comes with good intentions, and not every smile is genuine.

But wisdom isn’t about fighting them, proving a point, or getting revenge… it’s about outgrowing them.

The real power is in recognizing who they are, accepting the truth, and choosing your peace over their chaos.

Cut the ties that drain you, set boundaries that protect you, and walk away without looking back.

You don’t need closure from people who disrespected you.
You need distance.

Because growth isn’t about holding on… it’s about knowing when to let go.

Protect your energy. Protect your mindset. And most importantly—protect your peace. 🔥

04/20/2026

Relapse is not part of recovery.
Relapse is part of addiction.

To frame it as recovery risks blurring a critical line.

The shame associated with relapse is not incidental—it is embedded in the behaviour itself.
Humiliation is the terrain of addiction.

Recovery asks for something fundamentally different: humility.
A movement away from humiliation, not a return to it.

When we normalize relapse as part of recovery, we risk weakening that bridge—
the bridge from humiliation to humility.

This is not theoretical.
The bold print of relapse is that people die.

Recovery is not a continuation of the same process.
It is a shift—from compulsion toward choice,
from death instinct toward life.

That shift should not be minimized

04/15/2026

04/12/2026

Many clients enter therapy believing they cannot heal because they cannot forgive.

They have absorbed the message—culturally and spiritually—that forgiveness is the benchmark of healing and the inability to extend this means they have somehow failed to “do the work.”

Yet one clinical concern is that forgiveness, when encouraged prematurely, may function less as healing and more as emotional bypassing—pressuring individuals to transcend pain before it has been fully processed, validated, or integrated.

Part of our role as clinicians may be to help clients reconsider what healing requires—not as extending grace, absolution, or blessing toward the person who caused harm, but as the gradual process of letting go: loosening fixation on the wound, relinquishing the emotional grip of past injury, and ultimately finding freedom from resentment.

Within Christian thought, forgiveness has traditionally been understood as a spiritual and moral act involving mercy toward the offender and release of their debt.

But in the therapeutic space, clients may benefit from understanding that healing does not necessarily require this form of pardon. Sometimes it requires only the inward work of release.

Many would argue that the intrapsychic work required to surrender bitterness and transcend suffering is itself spiritual—that the journey inward toward healing is, in many respects, soul work.

And for some, that shift in language may be exactly what allows the healing process to begin.

03/29/2026

March 27, 1994: in my first month I needed to know the secret and at a gentleman’s 40 year medallion I asked him … he replied quite simply “one day at a time”… and here I am having lived and continuing to live the ups, the downs and the in between one day at a time for 32 years … I have been truly blessed on this adventure🌞🙏🏼

11/22/2025

I believe that many of us have never learned ever to “attach” - there was only fawn or freeze for me - alcohol and drugs provided new options of faint (blacking out) and freeze.

09/17/2025

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09/02/2025

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