11/11/2025
When couples say they’ve “lost the spark,” what’s often missing is curiosity - the wonder that first drew you together.
In Imago Relationship Therapy, curiosity is the bridge from reactivity to empathy. It turns defensiveness into discovery. When you stay curious, you stay open to what’s alive in your partner, rather than defending who you think they are.
Try this tonight:
What’s something you’ve been thinking about lately that I may not know?
When did you feel most at ease this week?
What do you most need from me when we feel disconnected?
Then simply listen - not to correct, but to connect. Curiosity softens the space between you and makes room for love to return.
Reflection: The Beginner’s Mind
Sit quietly together, breathe, and look gently into one another’s eyes. Silently repeat: “There is more to you than I know.”
Notice what shifts. That simple awareness can reawaken safety, compassion, and possibility.
