Ivory Therapy

Ivory Therapy Virtual therapy for neurodivergent, q***r, immigrant, and minority clients in Canada. Expertise includes autism, ADHD, anxiety disorders, and BPD.

I help neurodivergent, q***r, immigrant, and minority clients build their self esteem and cultivate meaningful relationships. I also support students and working professionals with career transitions and stress management.

My session availability updated for 2025. Note that I can make special accommodations for time difference due to travel....
12/09/2024

My session availability updated for 2025.

Note that I can make special accommodations for time difference due to travel.

Schedule a consultation at www.ivorytherapy.com to check if our schedules will align.
I am always open to email and phone inquiries.
(437) 292-3899
contact@ivorytherapy.com

Reach out and let's learn what it means to be different, not less.

People-pleasing is just you trying to be kind to others, but forgetting to be kind to yourself too. You're worth remembe...
10/17/2024

People-pleasing is just you trying to be kind to others, but forgetting to be kind to yourself too. You're worth remembering.

Might be a hot take, but I am a believer of top-down love in a parent-child relationship. Parents are RESPONSIBLE FOR lo...
09/18/2024

Might be a hot take, but I am a believer of top-down love in a parent-child relationship.
Parents are RESPONSIBLE FOR loving their child. They brought that child into this world so now must take care of that child's wellbeing. Meanwhile, the child is EXPECTED to love their parents, but doesn't hold the same kind of responsibility. The child can CHOOSE TO love their parents.

Happy mid autumn festival! ~A personal anecdote~As a first-generation immigrant in Canada, I live incredibly far from th...
09/18/2024

Happy mid autumn festival! ~A personal anecdote~

As a first-generation immigrant in Canada, I live incredibly far from the rest of my family. The holiday season, or big cultural events, can really hit home that I'm alone because it pushes so many messages about celebrating together and cherishing family.

It felt strange to be alone at first. But you know what, I've moved past that. What else can I do? Nowadays, I like to make the most of these events to reconnect with my culture in my own simple ways. It can feel disillusioning to participate in a lifestyle that is so far from the sights and traditions I grew up with. But cultural celebrations bring out the very sights and traditions that feel so familiar to me. It's the chance to feel at home away from home.

I'm part Korean. In Korea, the mid-autumn celebration is called Chuseok, (추석), which is celebrated on the 15th day of the 8th month of the lunar calendar on a full moon. Although I don't throw a big party, every year, I gift myself one of my favorite food items, songpyeon (송편); it's a type of dessert rice cake filled with sugar and sesame. This year, I'm trying out new songpyeons from a local bakery, They look absolutely amazing.

And surprise surprise, I'm also part Chinese! The Chinese believe that the mid-autumn moon is the brightest and fullest moon. Hence, we celebrate by eating mooncakes, which are typically filled with egg yolks that have the image of a full moon. I'm excited to try mooncakes from a different local bakery,

Yes, I'm indulging myself with both options.

The next time you're feeling lonely during the holidays or celebrations, I hope you know that I get you, I really do. And at the same time, I believe in you. I believe it's possible to be far from home and loved ones, but still make your holiday meaningful in your own way.

I hope you enjoy your holidays too.

Signs that you have an emotionally immature parent includes:1. Your parent has poor emotional regulation, which causes t...
07/11/2024

Signs that you have an emotionally immature parent includes:

1. Your parent has poor emotional regulation, which causes them to rely on you, their child, for emotional support.

2. Your parent is emotionally unavailable. They are unable to provide comfort and affection, and instead prioritize their personal needs over yours. This leaves you, their child, feeling insecure and unable to express yourself.

3. You parent lacks empathy. They cross your boundaries and react to your needs with defensiveness, blame-shifting, stonewalling, and criticism.

Do you think you might be an adult child of an emotionally immature parent?

Hi there! I am a Registered Psychotherapist in Toronto, Canada. I deliver therapy online to clients across Ontario and Q...
06/24/2024

Hi there! I am a Registered Psychotherapist in Toronto, Canada. I deliver therapy online to clients across Ontario and Quebec. Here are some quick facts about me.

Contact me
Email: anabel@ivorytherapy.com
Call: 437-292-3899


Read about reasons why you are not achieving your goals and how to change that.Summary:🌱 By addressing the common obstac...
06/06/2024

Read about reasons why you are not achieving your goals and how to change that.

Summary:
🌱 By addressing the common obstacles of fear, vague goals, lack of consistency, and absence of feedback, you can overcome the barriers that hinder your success.

🌱 Remember that success is a journey and requires consistency. Stay committed and be willing to adapt.

🌱 Know that the only person you really need to satisfy is yourself. At the end of your road, you will be the one regretting the could-have-beens.

Perfectionism is fear disguised as trying your best.It doesn’t make you feel perfect. It makes you feel inadequate.Shift...
05/21/2024

Perfectionism is fear disguised as trying your best.
It doesn’t make you feel perfect. It makes you feel inadequate.

Shifting a perfectionist mindset starts with:
🌿Setting goals that are attainable for you.
🌿Challenging your negative self-talk with positive affirmations.
🌿Embracing mistakes as a natural part of the learning process.
🌿Focusing on your progress rather than the end result.
🌿Limiting comparison to others since it often leads to unrealistic expectations.

Thinking of starting therapy? Here's a quick guide for how to find your therapist.
05/11/2024

Thinking of starting therapy? Here's a quick guide for how to find your therapist.

Creating a lasting and fulfilling relationship requires dedication and courage. One crucial part of it is the willingnes...
04/04/2024

Creating a lasting and fulfilling relationship requires dedication and courage. One crucial part of it is the willingness to confront issues head-on and engage in open communication.

Confrontation might be scary at times 💀, but it isn't a bad thing in itself. Rather than shying away from difficult conversations, view them as opportunities for🌱growth and intimacy.

Confrontation, when done constructively, can allow both partners to address concerns, express needs, and resolve conflicts. It's about acknowledging your differences and finding your compromise. By fostering open and honest communication, you can deepen your understanding of your partner, build trust, and strengthen your relationship. 🥳

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Break free from the "should"s that weigh you down. 💬Speaking in "should" statements can trap us in unrealistic expectati...
03/28/2024

Break free from the "should"s that weigh you down. 💬
Speaking in "should" statements can trap us in unrealistic expectations and a cycle of shame.
Let's embrace self-compassion and rewrite our inner dialogue with kindness, compassion, and forgiveness.

The Four Horsemen that predict the end of a relationship are Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling.They a...
03/27/2024

The Four Horsemen that predict the end of a relationship are Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling.

They are sequential. The end starts with Criticism entering the room.

So what is Criticism? And how can we differentiate a criticism from a regular complaint?

👍Complaint is a specific statement of anger, distress, displeasure, or other negativity.

Example of Complaint: "It upset me when I came home and there were dirty dishes in the sink. Last night, we agreed that you would wash the dishes."

👎 Criticism is a lot less specific. It includes generalizations and may include blaming in it.

When you are complaining, you are attacking a specific action (or lack of). When you are criticizing, you are attacking the other person.

Example of Criticism: You left dirty dishes all over the kitchen again. You promised me you wouldn't. I can't trust you, can I?

Learn more about The Four Horsemen on my site: https://www.ivorytherapy.com/resources/managing-conflict-in-a-relationship

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