09/18/2025
A mother wound can deeply shape how you feel about yourself in adulthood.
Why do we talk about mothers?
Because, in many families, the mother is the first and primary emotional caregiver.
Her presence or her absence often becomes the blueprint for how you learn to trust, love, and relate to both yourself and others.
That does not mean fathers are not important. They absolutely are. An emotionally unavailable father can leave lasting pain, too.
But the mother and child bond is usually the very first one you experience, and when it is missing, it can ripple through your sense of safety, worth, and belonging.
If you have lived through this, please know you are far from alone (I personally have worked with hundreds of clients who have worked on their healing 💗).
And this is not about blame (!!!)
Mothers give what they can, and sometimes because of their own wounds, circumstances, or limits it is not enough to contribute to healthy mental development.
Naming this is not to judge them, but to honor your own experience and begin to heal.
Part of that healing is learning to create an internal caregiver within yourself, an inner voice that is nurturing, compassionate, and safe.
When the outer caregiver was missing or limited, building this inner one becomes essential. It is how you slowly learn to meet your own needs, to soothe, and to hold yourself with the care you may not have received early on.
