Allison Creech, M.Ed, ND. Doctor of Naturopathic Medicine

02/15/2025

09/01/2022

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08/29/2022

Dear Loved Ones: When we compassionate-hearted folks first begin trying to set boundaries, it might feel like we’re causing trouble.

We’re not.

We’ve actually been carrying the troubles around for awhile.

We just didn’t say anything about them.

Why not?

Because we didn’t know we could.

Being compassionately-hearted and responsibility-oriented by nature, we just kinda…assumed all the troubles were ours to take on.

But they weren’t.

And some of these problems are too heavy.

We’re gonna break if we keep carrying them all by ourselves.

(And so could this relationship).

Something’s gotta change.

We’re realizing that now. And we’re learning and growing.

So when we come to you with our first fumbling attempts to try to set boundaries, it might feel to you like it’s totally out of the blue.

It’s not.

Its actually a problem that’s been in the relationship for a long time.

We’re just finally letting you know.

And we’re hoping you will care.

Maybe we can even come up with some ways to try to solve the problem together.

Because we want to enjoy a better connection with you.

Either way, we gotta stop carrying it.

With Love,

Your compassionately-hearted (new-at-this-boundaries-thing) one

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Molly

08/27/2022

Autism, ADHD, and Giftedness are three distinct neurotypes with many overlapping traits.

A neurotype is a particular combination of neuro-traits which results in a cluster of experiences and behaviors.

Although these neurotypes can be experienced separately, many of us experience more than one (or even all of them) simultaneously.

This diagram is an attempt to clarify and delineate which traits are associated with each neurotype, and which traits overlap in two or all three neurotypes.

As I fit into all three categories, it was challenging for me to tease apart the nuanced differences and where they overlap. Therefore, I looked at many sources to compile this list. Despite this, there may be varying opinions about the accuracy of these distinctions.

Autism, ADHD, and Giftedness are the currently accepted names, but all three names are problematic and are inaccurate descriptions of the actual experience.

(Please remember that this is for informational purposes only and not intended to be used for diagnosis or treatment.)

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Edited: It seems that some people might be misunderstanding aspects of this diagram.
1. The traits listed are common traits of these neurotypes, but a person does not need to have all the traits listed. Actually, most ADHDers, Autistic, and Gifted people will not have all the traits listed for each neurotype.
2. As I wrote on the diagram, the overlapping areas are shared traits, which means they are traits that commonly occur in both or all three neurotypes. The overlapping areas are NOT listing traits that only show up when someone is multiply neurodivergent.

08/27/2022

What are bids for connection like in your relationship?

Dr. Gottman calls bids “the fundamental unit of emotional communication.” Bids can be small or big, verbal or nonverbal. They're requests to connect.

Try to notice the ways in which you and your partner respond to bids for attention, empathy, or connection in your interactions.

08/24/2022

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08/24/2022

When we don’t know where the boundary lines are, we may accidentally protect the very thing we wish would stop.

Enabling is simply unboundaried loyalty.

We don’t want them to feel bad…

Because we think it’s our job to protect them from experiencing discomfort — including from judgement, social shame, or consequences of their actions.

So we evade, minimize, or justify their harmful behaviors.

We think this is loyalty.

We think this is love.

But our unboundaried loyalty to them causes us to betray ourselves in the process.

My friend.

Love does not ask for self-betrayal.

❤️

Molly

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