03/25/2026
I recently sat down with Carmen Davailus to explore a deceptively simple question:
How does making the OUTSIDE changes we are needing rely on changes to the INSIDE stories we are telling ourselves?
…When it’s otherwise too easy to get swept away by tasks, pressures, and expectations, which ultimately keep us living by stories that impede that change?
I shared three key narrative shifts that support transformation:
Outwitting Perfectionism — redefining self-worth through excellence, not impossible standards.
“Firing the Judge” — replacing harsh self-judgment with curiosity, allowing us to sit in vulnerability and discomfort without shutting down.
Owning What Comes Next — holding ourselves accountable for the very next step that moves us closer to what truly matters.
From there, we landed on a concept I often share with clients and the therapists I teach:
Swimming like the whale.
Living with gentle power — finding gentleness in your strength and strength in your gentleness.
Always moving forward with clarity and direction.
Not thrashing. Not overshooting.
But steady. Sustainable. Smooth.
Our Authentic Life Meaning, it turns out, isn’t found in frantic striving. It’s created through powerful, intentional flow — moving through the waters of life toward what matters most, stabilizing yourself along the way.
So I’m curious:
How are you finding your flow toward meaning?
See the Full Episode: “Healing Begins When we Change the Story”, here:
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