09/16/2025
𝓼𝓮𝓵𝓯 𝓵𝓸𝓿𝓮
I’ve been diving into healing content and came across Brain Ridgway and his gifted articulations of some foundational perspectives about embodying your true (best) self.
Encouraged to share, I’ve noted highlights from one of his free masterclasses - much is said, but the paraphrasing helps to digest a core concept that resonates with my understanding of our bodily experience
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what if love is that which is here to arise to discover and meet the need
and you are the self
you are the centre of your universe
Loving self would be acknowledging that you exist and becoming curious about what you need and meeting it
To stay healthy and comfortable in a body what do I need
In order for you to meet your needs, wouldn’t it be necessary for you to first perceive accurately and feel calm so you can accurately perceive what your needs are? What your intuition is guiding you to do
You gotta become sane & calm
You can only become truly selfless after you allow yourself to be fully selfish
Am I being selfish enough that my bucket is so full that I can be generously selfless?
Breath is the most important need
We need to learn how to breathe, there might be ways of breathing that might be more beneficial
Imagine being given 10 cubic centimetres of air to ration for the day
With limited supply, would you be truly living the way you desire to live
Could it be that there’s a certain amount of breath that takes you to being fully alive and fully meet the need for breath
The most fundamental act of self love is to give the body the breath it needs
If you are breathing in the way that serves your body most, you might be more sane and conscious in relating with other people
Effective at digesting and undoing the trauma, the disease
If you were to begin engaging in the most fundamental act of self love that you could ever commit, wouldn’t that begin to spill over into every other area of your life
If there is a way of breathing that’s more beneficial, there’re ways of breathing that would be less beneficial
We breathe less than we need and in ways that are harmful, and it’s to avoid pain
Physical & emotion pain
***any experience that’s shocking to the nervous system can be held by it***
If you learn as a child that expressing your feelings gets you in trouble, the only way to kill your feelings is to kill your breath
You’ve been holding your breath to avoid being hurt, rejected abandoned ignored again
Until you feel and digest those feelings, you can’t heal
You have a thousand little gasps that you haven’t exhaled
All the pain and trauma that’s frozen as energetic blockages in your body and being - you learn don’t breathe and feel them - if you feel them it’s gonna hurt, if you breathe and feel them, you’re going to express them and people are gonna abandon you leave and make fun of you
We are quite literally killing ourselves 24/7 by not breathing enough to digest that sh*t and it ends up showing up on x-rays.
So when someone starts breathing correctly, they automatically begin unmaking/digesting of emotional and energetic causes of trauma in the body
Your body will heal itself if you give it what it needs, and that is self love
disease dissolves in love
To admit breathing is our number one need, (compare food, water, shelter, and air!) and discover the way of breathing that serves and supports your body & consciousness most
Is Self Love
When you breathe as a sane, conscious, present human being, you can actually be able to hear the signals of your universe and actually hear what the people around you are saying and doing and needing
And until you love yourself, how are you going to ever be able to accurately perceive and love others?
It’s that simple
Here on this planet to help brothers and sisters wake up and discover that they’re perfect infinite unlimited beings of love
To begin to wake up, become present, and start to love what they perceived was unlovable so that the whole universe can just be love again 🥰
- Brian D. Ridgway
