08/05/2025
Dating & the Role of Friends and Family
In the early stages of dating, friends and family often feel like an important part of the process. We want their impressions, gut reactions, red flag alerts—and sometimes their enthusiasm to validate our excitement.
But here’s the thing:
In the beginning, you’re still getting to know the person. You may be uncertain, still forming your own opinion. And sometimes, inviting too many outside voices in too soon can cloud your judgment instead of clarifying it—especially if those voices aren’t neutral or struggle to separate your well-being from their own preferences.
On the flip side, if you wait too long, it’s easy to become invested before ever seeing how this person fits (or doesn’t) within your wider world. At that point, feedback can feel more threatening—even when it’s loving and honest.
So when is the right time to introduce someone you’re dating to your people?
There’s no one answer, but here are a few considerations:
– Are you clear on what you think about them?
– Are your people clear on their role—to support your process, not take it over?
– Is this someone whose presence in your life you’re beginning to build around shared values, safety, and connection—not just chemistry?
Dating well often includes listening to both your gut and your trusted community. The goal isn’t to silence either voice—but to discern which one you need to hear most clearly at each stage.
