
13/05/2024
I was surprised how many people were so concerned about my placenta when I did a free birth.
Delivering one’s own placenta is something every mammal is capable of and has done for hundreds of thousands of years.
Again this highlights where we’ve been collectively duped to believe that this task is somehow difficult, and that only a trained medical professional can do it.
I grew up with too many mammals giving birth to believe this is somehow a medical procedure.
Also, apparently only 3% of women experience retained placenta, and I’d hazard a guess that number is inflated due to medicalized births and ‘management of the third stage of labour’ aka they pull your placenta out prematurely instead of letting your body expel it naturally on its own time.
Which is in the neighborhood of 45-60 minutes after giving birth, btw.
Something also feels gross and weird to me about someone else wanting to take credit for ‘delivering a placenta.’ Something about others wanting to come between me and my body’s own capabilities is strange.
For instance T jokingly said he felt useless about the birth so he’d tell people he at least delivered the placenta. But language and stories are so important so I said Hellll no. Do I look like a person who needs help expelling - not delivering - a placenta? Do I occur as that feeble? Is a placenta on par with a pizza that needs to be delivered?
And then he even said something like, “I cut the cord, separating mom and baby,” but again I corrected that: as you can see in the picture, his cord is still attached after the placenta is out of my body.
There was no third person detaching myself from my son. There was Nature expelling a placenta and then us cutting the cord between placenta and baby.
These stories can all serve to paint a picture of
Women as weak, women as livestock, women as farm animals, women as objects to own, control, and medicalize.
T’S intentions are good and he is not the issue but it speaks to the larger world of language around women and birth. And birth is where they come for us.
Birth is the beginning and birth will be the end of these injustices.
It’s not hard to birth or expel your own placenta.