02/14/2021
Today, I’m sharing this as an act of self-love. Of vulnerability, of showing up as my authentic self.
My name is AK, I am non-binary and trans-masc q***r person. I use they/them pronouns, and predominantly gender-neutral language. Take note ✍️
Over the past 9 months I’ve been on a gender journey since a moment in a TV show flipped a switch in my brain, and made me question my identity as a woman.
It was scary. It was painful at times. I battled A LOT of internalized transphobia. I worked through it. I came out to myself, then people close to me. It was messy and not perfect and that’s ok.
Today, I’m ready (and excited!) to share this with all of you. By doing this, I am stepping into my more authentic self, and also sharing vulnerably. This is a coming out of sorts, although the idea that we “come out” once is entirely untrue.
We come out, or don’t, in daily life, over and over. Often based on safety, or who the audience is, as being q***r or trans is still very much marginalized. I recognize here that my privilege as a white trans person will protect me in some spaces. However there is still so much homophobia and transphobia that exists in this world, part of my journey was to accept that there will be more hardship to come if I share this part of myself. It’s still worth it for me.
If you are reading this, and want to show your support, know that I would so appreciate that. A supportive comment, changing my name to AK in your phone & brain, noting my pronouns, and using them correctly when talking about me is so appreciated. And know that it’s ok to slip up (hell I even do it to myself!) If you do, a quick “sorry, AK/them” is all that is needed. It takes practice and time, and it’s clear who makes that effort and who doesn’t. If someone else is talking to you about me, and using the wrong name/pronouns, please correct them.
Last, I want to share that they/them and AK are my current name and pronouns, and that may change down the road! Having that freedom is important to me, and feels important to share. Also I may not have all my email/social accounts/life stuff changed to AK right away - there’s a lot 😅
Thank you for all love & support 💙 - AK